让人醍醐灌顶的10个心理真相
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 269px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; 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max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">01.</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>当你允许自己不完美</strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>你就允许了身边的人完整<br></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;">你不需要完美，你只需要完整。这就代表了你会受伤，你会挫败，你会体验到不知道该怎么办······</span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;">但是，当你把每一个不同的部分归纳到你的生命之中，跟他们说：欢迎······那么，你就是一个完整的人。</span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;">当你允许了自己不完美，</span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;">你也就允许了身边的人完整。</span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px;">两个完整的人在一起，我们会把真实带到关系里——我把真正的自己带给你，你也把真正的你带给我，再没有比这更美好的事情了。</span></p><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><br></p></span></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 284px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02.</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>无论你变得多优秀<br><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>总有人会不喜欢你</strong></span></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">以前，我以为不喜欢我的人是因为不了解我。只要他们了解我，他们就会喜欢我了。于是我尝试做很多事情，让更多人明白我。</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">但是后来我才知道，那些不喜欢我的人，也是了解我的人，知道这一点真的是令人震惊，但也是一种解脱。<br></span></p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">事实上，他们不喜欢我，那是因为，他们也不喜欢自己。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">带着这样的同理，这样的慈悲，知道这一个真相，真好，带着觉察，我们学习放下讨好别人的需求，开始学习聆听和满足自己的需求。</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">就如诗人叶芝所说，</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">当我爱自己时，</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">当我和自己在一起，</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">无论诗从哪里开始，</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">都是以爱结束。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></span></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 310px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03.</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>人格健全</strong></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>就是对抗PUA的最好利器</strong></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">人好像有一种本能，当我发现你非常非常爱我的时候，我就把爱收回来，用于掌控你来得到我所需求的，这就是我们常说的PUA。</span><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">这个连三岁小孩子都懂——“妈妈，如果你现在不给我零食，我就不爱你了······”再大一点的时候，“如果你不给我玩游戏，我就不爱你了······”</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">有没有看到这种现象？</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">作为父母，重要的是父母的心理年龄足够成熟。如果你的生理年龄是40岁，但心理年龄比那个三岁的孩子还小，孩子长大后会成为一个与自我为中心，罔顾社会秩序的人。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">当父母拥有健全的自我，成熟的心理年龄，我们才能够让孩子感觉到安全感秩序感。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">所以父母爱孩子最好的方法——就是发展自己内在健全的自我。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">同样地，发展内在健全的人格，可以帮助我们远离关系中的pua。</span></section><p><br></p></span></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 334px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">04.</strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>了解原生家庭</strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>不是为了翻旧账</strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><br></section><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">当我们去探索原生家庭的议题时，我们必须要去避免的一个误区就是：翻旧账。</span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有的人用了太多的力量去算旧账，去要一个明白，要一个“公义”，以为“伸冤”、“抗议之后，人生就没问题了······</span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">但是却导致我们在过往的问题里不停地打转、重复，而忘记了自己真正要去的地方。</span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">所以，我们去探索原生家庭的议题时，我们的意图是能够看到我们卡在哪个地方，当我们知道卡在哪里，我们就可以把TA松开。</span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">把过去那个资源匮乏的自己，加入到现在有资源的“我”这里，把过去受伤的自己加入到成熟的“我”这里，带上TA一起，朝向生命的旅程，这就是成长，这也意味着我们朝向了一段心智成熟的历程。</span></p><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 292px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">05.</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>期待马上改变</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>也是一种自我憎恨的表达</strong></span><strong style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"></strong></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">改变的一个核心提问：你可以接纳你不改变吗？</span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">很多人都会说，我要改变自己，我要改变我的自卑，那么我就可以更自信了，我要改变我的脆弱，我要更有力量了······</span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">所以我们以为去掉我们内在的某些部分，剩下的就是好的。</span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">但是我们想改变自己讨厌的状态，用一种紧绷的神经肌肉锁紧的状态，想把这个我不喜欢的部分从我的身体里去除掉，却紧紧地把它锁上了。</span><br></p><p><br></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">改变一个问题的努力，让问题成为了一个更大的问题，</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">这个努力成为了问题的本身。</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">所以我常常说，人是不会改变的，除非他感受到被爱；人是不会改变的，除非他感受到被尊重；人是不会改变的，除非他允许被不改变也是可以的······</span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">当我们能够从这个地方有更多的允许和接纳，把每一个不同的部分归纳进来，那么在这一个空间里，我们就有更多的流动和完整。</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">要爱自己 ，首先不是苛责自己，</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">而是连接自己，抱持自己。</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">同样地，要帮助一个人， </span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">首先不是要改变他，而是加入他， 感受他。</span></p><p><br></p></span></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 314px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">06.</strong></span></p><p><strong>敏感害羞的人是最有创造力的</strong></p><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><br></p><p>创造力是来自两个矛盾面向之间的对话。</p><p><br></p><p>当一个人有害羞、敏感的部分，就意味着他对世界有着非常敏锐的感知，他的潜意识是非常敏锐的，能够捕捉到潜意识的能量、信息、画面、象征，捕捉到灵光乍现的瞬间。</p><p><br></p><p>如果他同时在生命里也能够保持头脑意识的正念觉察，拥有持续的行动力，有一个意图，去创造一个现实的话，当这两者同时在一起的时候，我们就可以创造一个无与伦比的未来和现实。</p></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><br></p></span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 561px;height: 310px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">07.</strong></span></p><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><strong>如果能够在情绪之外</strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><strong>创造一个更大的空间</strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><strong>你就自由了</strong></section><p><strong><br></strong></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">把你的感官细节、精微的觉察、持续的关注，完全专注在当下，和当下的事物完全融合在一起，这个时候，你就融入一个更宏大的场域之中。</span></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">当生命里面这些问题、挑战、创伤、目标来来去去的时候，你会体验到，你比这些更大，</span></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">所以，它们不是一个问题，它们只是你生命空间里面的一部分，在这个空间里，你可以选择如何回应。</span></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">因为，你没有掉到里面去，成为问题的本身，你也没有离开问题，解离，活在你的幻想里，而是，你创造了一个比问题更大的空间。</span></strong></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><br></p></span></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 573px;height: 318px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">08.</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>真正的长大是去看清<br><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><strong>爸爸妈妈不改变也可以</strong></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">成长很重要的一点就是去意识到——</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>我们的爸爸妈妈可能不会再改变了，</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>他们也不需要再改变了。</strong></span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">因为我们长大了，我们已经和以前有很多的不同，拥有了资源和能力。<br></span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">现在我们可以练习抱持着我们内在的脆弱，让心大大地去打开，去看到父母也有自己的局限，也自己的受伤。</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">而真相是他们把生命带给了我们，把我们带到这个世界上，让我们可以去经验丰盛的人生······</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">生命是苦，也是乐，</span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">生命痛彻心扉，生命也是欣喜无限。</span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>我们拥有了一个人的生命，去可以感受丰盛的人生。</strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>既然生命这么丰盛，那为什么不可以去享受它？</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></span></section></section></section></section><br></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 316px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">09.</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>每一个爆发的情绪</strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>都隐藏着一个需要疗愈的存在</strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p>十多年前，我和父母同住，每个周末我们都会一起去喝早茶。通常我们约好十点半，而我的10点半就是11点。</p><p><br></p><p>这个时候，他们已经全部准备好，都在等我穿鞋，我妈妈就会发出“诶，没一次准时······”的抱怨。她的表情和声调，就会让我想起童年时被驱赶、被催促的体验。</p><p><br></p><p>但是，在我想回怼她几句的时候，我闪过一丝觉察，“嗯，仕明，在你现在要爆发的这个地方，就是一个需要疗愈、需要完整的地方了，在那里，有一个早年的小明，需要被疗愈、需要被整合，他需要我帮助他疗愈，他需要我帮助他在这个世界去成长，我看到你了，我看到你了······”</p><p><br></p><p>然后，我做一个呼吸，把我的微笑带到那里，再一次做一个呼吸，抬头，看着我妈说：“妈，我搞定啦，不好意思，让你久等啦，我们出发吧！”<br></p><p><br></p><p>所以，在情绪爆发的地方，越绷紧，改变难发生；相反，在情绪爆发的地方，越放松，越温柔对待自己，改变和成长就有机会发生。</p></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p><br></p></span></section></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 20px 8px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 296px;"></span></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 660.995px; vertical-align: top; border-width: 0px; background-color: rgba(220, 220, 220, 0.498); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75; color: rgb(98, 90, 90); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">10.</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>生命的设计本身就是</strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong>反完美主义</strong></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong><br></strong></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">完美主义是头脑的一种幻想。</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我们幻想事情要如我们所愿地去发生，一切都是要确定的，一切都是要对的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">这种头脑的幻想，无论是对自己，或者是对他人，</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">都是一种暴力。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">而事实上，生命的设计，</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">例如老去和疾病，就是帮助我们打破完美主义。</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">我们对我们的身体有那么多那么深的执着，</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">而生病和衰老的到来帮助我们打破这个执着，打破完美主义的幻想。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 1px;">在这个破碎的过程中，</span><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">同时我们也打开了一空间，在那个地方，我们最终领悟到，放下事情不会变坏的期待，全心全意地活在当下。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;">从这个当下的地方，活出如荣格所说的「我情愿要完整，也不要完美」的真实的人生。</span></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></section></section></section><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">本文图片来源网络，侵权请联系</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「黄仕明心理」，搜索「shimingxinli」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/cC_emwCSexnMa7r8dcjbzQ">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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