情绪，到底是直接发泄好，还是憋着好？
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">最近跟一位新认识的朋友聊天，她说：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="outer" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="87319" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="91%" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85614" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="新媒体管家" data-label="powered by xmt.cn" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-darkmode-bgcolor-15898760952513="rgb(36, 36, 36)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-15898760952513="rgb(255, 255, 255)" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="94700" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="paragraph" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="96475" data-xmt-x1="848.37890625" data-xmt-y1="343.69140625" data-xmt-x2="1525.37090625" data-xmt-y2="1639.74140625" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="outer" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="outer" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93202" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">年纪越大，越觉得情绪要自己消化。所以我尽可能不让自己的坏情绪打扰到别人。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不过，憋着也没让我成为一个情绪稳定的人，我依然常常不快乐，好像一直被乌云笼罩着。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你说，情绪，到底该发泄，还是该憋着呢？</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我回答：</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">都不要。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 540px !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97612" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style-id="25079" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(207, 190, 158); visibility: visible;"><section style="padding-top: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: left; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158); visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: right; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158); visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 236px; display: inline-block; visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">憋着和发泄，都不是好方法</span></strong></p></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 5px; padding-bottom: 7px; padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: left; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: right; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 30, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“憋着”</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">就是我们通常所说的压抑，而当我们压抑自己时，不仅仅只压抑情绪，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">还会连同生命的活力也一并压抑了。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而且压抑情绪并不会让情绪消失，只会形成两种局面：</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">一是</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">持续向内攻击，让乳腺、甲状腺等身体器官受害。</span></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有句网络梗叫做“忍一时乳腺增生，退一步卵巢囊肿”，是有道理的。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">二是</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">憋不住了，情绪到了不可耐受的地步，只能发泄。</span></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 30, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;">发泄</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">，就像是你手里不知道从哪里来了一个火球，如果你抱着它就会感觉到很烫，你会本能的想把火球丢出去。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要么丢给那个你认为把火球丢给你的人，比如夫妻吵架，女人感觉很生气，冲老公发火；</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要么向下传递丢给更弱小的人，比如骂不了老公，就把孩子狂骂一顿。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">总之，发泄只能带来一时的爽快，过后就会进入到内疚、懊悔和自责的状态里，排出去的情绪又会很快回到体内。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">假如你的发泄对象反过来继续攻击你，又会带来更大的破坏性。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，发泄也不是一个排解情绪的好选择。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那么，对待情绪，有没有更好的选择呢？</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;text-align: center;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97612" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style-id="25079" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><section style="padding-top: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: left; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: right; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 110px; display: inline-block;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">第三种选择</span></strong></p></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 5px; padding-bottom: 7px; padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: left; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: right; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">全球知名身心灵导师奥南朵在《对生命说是》一书中，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">讲解了对待情绪的第三种选择：</strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 30, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;">承认自己处在情绪中，对情绪负起责任，注视它，但不被它抓住。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">具体可以分解为几个步骤：</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 30, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> a. 看 </span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">看，就是把自己放到观察者的位置。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当情绪到来时，不拒绝，不驱赶，而是带着好奇心，像旁观者一样，去观察它带给你的身体知觉和感受。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">它可以帮助你保持和情绪之间的距离，不至于被它吞噬和控制。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 30, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> b. 理解 </span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">观察完毕后，问问自己：是什么激发了这些情绪？会有什么糟糕的事情发生？我在害怕什么？是什么信念引起了恐惧或生气？</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这些问题会帮助你理解自己究竟怎么了。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果不去深入地看和理解自己，只是知道自己有坏情绪，就会迫不及待地想把坏情绪解决掉。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但坏情绪就像藤一样，越是用力挣脱，它就越是缠住你。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这时头脑就会给你编造故事，它会告诉你：你真倒霉，所有人都欺负你，你一无是处......</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这些话语对你没有任何用处，只会让你的认知越来越偏离客观现实。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 30, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> c. 对情绪说“是” </span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当你允许情绪流动，理解情绪来源，你就是它们的主人。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">作为主人，你可以像对待客人一样，对待情绪：</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">承认它们在这里，然后该干嘛干嘛，也知道它们会离开。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你因为某件事特别受挫，情绪非常悲伤，可以对自己说：是的，我承认我现在很悲伤。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">然后就任由这位“客人”坐在你家客厅里，接下来你该干嘛干嘛，做饭、运动、工作等。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这样做之后，你会发现，情绪对你的影响，其实并没那么大。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而负面情绪，也能开始发挥其正面价值。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒会成为活力，悲伤教会你感恩，恐惧推动你向前。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 556px !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-style-id="25079" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><section style="padding-top: 5px; padding-right: 5px; padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: left; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: right; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 92px; display: inline-block;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">写在后面</span></strong></p></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 5px; padding-bottom: 7px; padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: left; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.2em; height: 0.2em; float: right; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(207, 190, 158);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">也许看完这三步，你还是觉得很难做到。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这也没关系，很正常，就像身体需要锻炼才能形成优美的线条和肌肉，我们的心灵也是。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">知道的方法并不属于你，通过练习融入你体内的方法，才是真正属于你的。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在你尚未掌握这三步的时候，可以试试寻找专业倾听师的帮助。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愿你在尚未学会处理情绪时，能够找到正确的人发泄情绪；平时刻意学习，体验情绪被照顾的过程，体验新的解决路径，学会做情绪的主人。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(122, 68, 66); box-sizing: border-box !important;">照顾好内在情绪，才能照顾好身体，才能有健康美满的一生。</span></strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><br>转载声明：本文转载自「渡心人」，搜索「duxinren525」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/qd_Lb1tIjNZQokd6ge9bjA">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
页:
[1]