如何帮助容易愤怒的孩子？
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><span style="display: none;line-height: 0px;"></span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section data-role="paragraph"><span style="display: none;line-height: 0px;"></span><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">一个人从妈妈温暖的子宫里来到人世间，会面对各种陌生：陌生的环境，陌生的人，陌生的手臂触碰、包裹自己。第一声啼哭，是面对陌生的恐惧的情绪流动，是天然的情感表达。是和这个世界的第一个连接。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">我想这是每一个人最原初的人生经历。情绪是紧随身体来到人世的重要组成。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">渐渐地，当孩子会笑了，他们还会哭，他们虽不会说，但哭声有了丰富的内涵。除了最初的恐惧，还有快乐、悲伤与愤怒。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">当然，这些人类最基本的情感中，快乐是最易被理解，也最受欢迎的。毕竟一个快乐的小宝贝会唤醒成人内在的爱，会让疲惫的父母得到放松与安慰。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">至于恐惧、悲伤、愤怒，从对周遭环境和人的影响来说，愤怒也许是最难的一种。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">毕竟，当宝贝深陷无厘头的情绪，愤怒制造的情境是最容易让成人难堪与失控的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px;">那么，愤怒是怎么来的，作为成人又该如何帮助爱愤怒的小宝贝呢？</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97455" style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="margin: 10px 8px;outline: 0px;text-align: 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0.6px, transparent 0.6px 2px, transparent 3.4px 2px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(112, 48, 160);"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;"><strong>平和的成人</strong><strong>VS</strong><strong>愤怒的孩子</strong></strong></strong></span></strong></span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">一位妈妈描述，1岁多的宝宝经常在餐椅上吃饭时扔东西，有一次竟将餐椅上所有东西扔得所剩无几。爸爸起身要揍孩子。场面一时热闹非凡。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">我想这场景在家中是极为常见的，只不过内容、形式、场景诸多不同。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">很明显，孩子的表现是因为有了愤怒的情绪。那10几个月大的娃娃吃饭时愤怒什么呢？</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">如果将镜头拉进孩子成长的视角，也许作为成人会理解当下孩子反应的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">1岁左右开始训练孩子自己吃饭。最为顺利的场面是，孩子张嘴被喂几口后，给他一次机会，让他自己把手里盛着饭的勺子放进嘴巴中。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">如果大人因为有事，想尽快结束吃饭，不能像以往一样地允许他们按自己的节奏吃饭。换句话说，宝贝们想要把勺子放进嘴里的机会被剥夺。他们会愤怒。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">尽管他们有时像模像样地把勺子放进嘴里，饭也并没有放进嘴里多少，基本都撒在勺子往嘴巴运输的“路上”了，然而这个过程对他们却是重要而宝贵的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">这也解释了宝贝刚开始动手吃饭时，吃顿饭像打仗一样，时间、战线都长，而且成人“打扫战场”也蛮吃力。但孩子的心情是愉悦的。他们的笑容也许是回馈成人最好的良药。特别是当带着宝贝出去，听到别人夸赞自家孩子吃饭吃得好时，成就感爆棚。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">毕竟，对于6岁前的孩子而言，吃饭是多么重要的一件事。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">扔东西不过是他们表达对被剥夺这一过程的愤怒。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">而如果在吃饭中孩子感受到来自成人的情绪。比如吃饭时孩子链接到父母，尤其是母亲内在的不满、紧张、愤怒的情绪时，孩子会发作。因为3岁前，孩子与妈妈是完全在一起的。心理学上叫“共生”。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">共生阶段儿童是无法分清自己和他人的情绪的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">这在告诉我们，当成人处理孩子的愤怒时，父母的内在要平和。否则，就会在处理孩子的愤怒时，制造并升级愤怒。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">可见由吃饭扔碗这一小事中不难得知。孩子的愤怒，在吃喝睡觉等这些基本生物需求被满足的情况下，极有可能是内在的感受和需求未被满足，或成人内在有未被消化和理解的情绪，经由孩子接收由孩子替代父母表达。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">因此，3岁前父母越平和地养育，越能理解、抱持、涵容孩子的愤怒。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">然而仅有理解是不够的，还需要成人帮助其表达出来。</span><span style="font-size: 15px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;"></span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97455" style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="margin: 10px 8px;outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;align-items: flex-end;"><section style="outline: 0px;width: auto;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 60px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-shadow: rgb(70, 43, 128) 1px 1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 1px -1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) -1px 1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) -1px -1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 0px 1.4px, 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Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;"><br></strong></strong></span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(112, 48, 160);font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">帮助孩子认知和理解愤怒</strong></strong></span></strong></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;"></span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">一个2岁左右的宝妈讲，儿子经常为累高积木发脾气，一次被从出差回来的爸爸遇见，看到孩子边哭闹边将积木扔得到处、叮当作响。爸爸气不过要揍孩子。还埋怨妈妈“都是你惯的”。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">然而，积木没搭好孩子多数都会发脾气愤怒的，为什么？</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">当逐渐长大，在他们内在就有一个自己理想的样子，比如积木要搭几层，电梯的钮要自己按，门禁卡要自己刷。当积木搭不好，纽没按到，他们就会有情绪反应。这是成长经历。由此他们开始看到自己和自己的力量。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">他们发现自己可以可爱，还可以有用。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">当孩子搭积木时，他们想搭一个理想的样子不能。挫败感袭来将他们淹没，哭闹上演。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">当成人理解这一切，比如蹲下去，在他的高峰情绪值降下来一些时，温和地说：宝贝是不是想搭一个城堡，可搭着搭着就塌了，宝宝又生气、又难过。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">一句话有对孩子想法的解读想搭一个积木城堡。有对孩子现状的表述——搭着搭着就塌了。有对孩子内在情绪的看见——生气、难过。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">当然，接下来还要说，妈妈陪着你。这是对孩子情绪的接纳。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">此时，孩子可能会哭得更厉害，因为他们的内在有了一个体验，噢，原来这种感受叫“生气”、“难过”。终于知道这是什么了。一定要痛快地哭一下，有可能把以前积压的都哭出来。毕竟这么久了，才知道这是什么。难道不应该好好地“喜极而泣”一下吗？</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">对儿童而言，挫败感无刻不在，当其袭来又不知道这是什么时，对孩子是非常痛苦的事，被强烈情绪淹没的一刻，他们会感觉自己要消失了，这是多可怕的一件事。在那个当下，孩子的第一反应极有可能是恐惧。恐惧过后是挫败，是无力达到自己期待样子的愤怒和悲伤。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">这么多复杂的情绪儿童是没有办法理清的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">而理清这一切，不在儿童，在成人。确切地说，儿童想要将内在复杂的情感梳理清楚。需要成人的帮助，成人的看见和理解。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">然而在我们的文化下， 也许成人自己都不知道、甚至害怕、不接纳坏情绪，也无法理性地帮助孩子认知情绪。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">如此说来，孩子在给成人认识自己内在的成长机会。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">成人自己内在的情绪厘得越清，越能帮助孩子认知和理解情绪。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">情绪由两部分组成。感受加认知。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">陌生的感受，孩子是很难耐受的，当一个情绪体验到来，有一个名字来命名，那些情绪就不是怪兽了。也就没那么可怕了。那些混乱得像团雾一样的东西，就会在孩子的内在逐渐清晰、立体起来。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">有情绪不怕，怕的是不被看到、命名、理解和认知。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">而愤怒往往是诸多情绪中最外沿的一个，所有无法识别的情绪都可以用愤怒呈现，情绪逐渐被厘清，也是愤怒逐渐消减和被驾驭的过程。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">当然，运动也能帮助消减积压在身体层面的情绪。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">当然，复杂的情绪转化、消减需要过程。也因此，在面对孩子愤怒最高值过后，将其内在的想法、 感受读取过后，也许会有忽高忽低的哭泣的过程，而父母越平和安静地陪伴，孩子对情绪的体验越熟悉。经历负面情绪充分流淌过后，喜剧收场的可能越大。今后驾驭愤怒等情绪的能力越强。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97455" style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="margin: 10px 8px;outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;align-items: flex-end;"><section style="outline: 0px;width: auto;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 60px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-shadow: rgb(70, 43, 128) 1px 1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 1px -1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) -1px 1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) -1px -1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 0px 1.4px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 0px -1.4px, rgb(70, 43, 128) -1.4px 0px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 1.4px 0px, transparent 2px 2px, transparent 3px 3px, 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rgb(70, 43, 128) -1px -1px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 0px 1.4px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 0px -1.4px, rgb(70, 43, 128) -1.4px 0px, rgb(70, 43, 128) 1.4px 0px, transparent 2px 2px, transparent 3px 3px, transparent 3px 1px, transparent 1px 3px, transparent 1px 1px, transparent 2px 3.4px, transparent 2px 0.6px, transparent 0.6px 2px, transparent 3.4px 2px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">0</strong><strong style="outline: 0px;">3</strong></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;caret-color: red;color: rgb(112, 48, 160);font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;"><br></strong></strong></span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;caret-color: red;color: rgb(112, 48, 160);font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Apple Color Emoji", "Emoji Symbols Font", "Segoe UI Symbol", Arial, sans-serif;">驾驭愤怒</strong></strong></span></strong></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">愤怒是最外层的情绪，当内在的情绪感受不清晰时，所有的情绪，都可能经由愤怒来表达。总结一下，我们也就有了应对愤怒的小步骤。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">1. 成人内在情绪要平和。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">2. 看孩子基本生理需求是否被满足。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">3. 在情境中，感受孩子内在想法及愤怒等情绪感受。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">4. 表达出孩子内在想法，包括愤怒在内的感受。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">5. 教孩子像认识五官一样识别情绪。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">6. 愤怒往往是包裹在所有情绪的最外层，情绪识别得越清晰，愤怒值越容易降低。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">7. 运动能消减愤怒等情绪。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">8. 愤怒等情绪越被有效表达，越会被消减或驾驭。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">有了上述这些过程，也就有了驾驭愤怒的基础。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">事实上，愤怒等负面情绪不是坏东西。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">因为情绪无好坏之分。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">内在的愤怒等负面情绪越只有被看到，才有被驾驭和转化的可能。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">我们无法让一个人在高速行驶时急转弯，那样只会令车子散架。面对愤怒等负面情绪也是一样，按着它的轨道缓慢平滑的转变，对其有了更多的理解和看见，负面情绪的安全着陆才有更多可能。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">在人类进化史上，恐惧，愤怒这些基本情绪是保有人类持续生存的生机和力量。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">人类进化到今天，愤怒依然有作用。愤怒是推开，是对边界的维护，是人类遇到重大危险时瞬间启动原始自我保护的有效办法。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">愤怒是有功能和意义的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">只有你不理解的愤怒，没有驾驭不了的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">如果当一个儿童愤怒时，你向他的情绪共生，甚至想动手打他。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">很抱歉地告诉你，在你面前的儿童几岁，你的内在就只有几岁。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">但凡你讨厌愤怒，认为愤怒是坏东西。或无法应对儿童的愤怒，向儿童的愤怒共生。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Apple Color Emoji, Emoji Symbols Font, Segoe UI Symbol, Arial, sans-serif;">也许，都是你内在成长契机的到来。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 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