你处理孩子“坏情绪”的方式，决定了他长大后的性格
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="margin-bottom: 15px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); text-align: right; line-height: 1.5em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></p><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); text-align: right; line-height: 1.5em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89224" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-top: -16px;padding: 30px;outline: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(242, 244, 245);borer-radius: 10px;"><section style="margin-top: 5px;outline: 0px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: normal;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;caret-color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">当孩子产生坏情绪时，成熟的父母都会先处理孩子的情绪，再解决问题。只有当孩子感受到自己被理解和接纳了，他才会正确面对自己的真实情绪，并能够很好地驾驭它。</span></strong><br style="outline: 0px;"></section><section style="margin-top: 15px;outline: 0px;font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;min-height: 1em;text-align: right;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">——萨姐</strong></span></section></section><section style="margin-bottom: -30px;outline: 0px;width: 556px;text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section></section></section></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89224" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-bottom: -30px;outline: 0px;width: 556px;text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 13px;">作者：妙黛</span></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 13px;">来源：萨提亚育儿（ID：satiryuer）</span></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;visibility: visible !important;width: 22px !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.6em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; visibility: visible;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0em;text-indent: 0em;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: left;visibility: visible;outline: 0px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"></span></section><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; line-height: 2em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-size: 24px;">01</strong></strong></span></p><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);font-size: 16px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">“小孩子而已，</strong><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">有什么烦心事”</strong></span></section><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">《儿童情绪心理学》中有一个小故事，摄影师为了拍摄一组震撼人心的照片，他带着很多棒棒糖来到了孤儿院。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他请老师准备好热水，给孩子们洗澡，孩子们在氤氲的雾气中嬉笑打闹。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">摄影师又给每个小朋友都发了一根棒棒糖，孩子们别提多开心。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">就在孩子们最开心的时候，摄影师恶狠狠地抢走棒棒糖，直接扔进垃圾桶。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">小朋友不明所以地愣了，然后哭了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">一个，两个，三个……哭声就像传染一样，所有的小朋友都哭了起来。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">摄影师赶紧拿出照相机，拍摄下来这“难得”的一幕。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">照片出来后，摄影师非常满意，孩子们的悲伤真实而又深刻，他将照片取名为《孤儿院的悲情》去参加摄影比赛。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">结果很尽人意，他获得了比赛的第一名。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">可是就在他意气风发地走上台领奖的时候，主持人突然宣布本次大赛一等奖取消。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">摄影师非常消沉，把自己关在房间整整两天。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">直到第三天，他收到了大赛的奖杯和一封信。</span></p><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">那是孤儿院的院长写给他的，信里面说：</span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="40" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">“<span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;">作品本身非常出色，但是摄影师也应该体会一下孩子们被夺走棒棒糖的悲伤与绝望。</span>”</span></strong></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">人类的悲喜是相通的，只是不同人眼里的权重不同。<br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我们总觉得孩子的世界应该是无忧无虑的，他们的世界也没有什么大事。</span></section><section style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">一根棒棒糖，一个温暖的热水澡，一次欢笑打闹，都不是什么重要的事。</span></section><section style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 16px;">可是实际上，孩子世界一根棒棒糖的份量，与大人世界一等奖的份量是相同的。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 16px;">每个人都有坏情绪，每个人也都有伤心事，孩子也不例外。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如果我们只能接纳孩子的欢乐、喜悦，见不得孩子的暴躁、悲伤、心烦、嫉妒，那么他们的坏情绪，要让他们“藏”到哪里呢？</span></section><p style="margin-top: 25px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><strong style="outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-size: 24px;">02</strong></strong></p><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);font-size: 16px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">长大后不开心的大人</strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);font-size: 16px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">都是没有坏情绪的孩子</strong></span><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></section><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我们都希望孩子乖巧懂事听话，可是每个孩子都会有天使的一面，有恶魔的一面。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">只允许孩子开怀大笑，不允许孩子有脾气有悲伤，那么，他们势必要“砍掉”自己一部分情绪，把那些不被大人喜欢的，隐藏起来。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">日积月累的压抑，都成为了孩子长大成人后，伤害自己的利器。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">韩剧《虽然是精神病但是没关系》里面，男主角文钢太是一名优秀的护工，他性情温和，对人永远都是在微笑的，像个小丑一样，上扬的嘴角，忧伤的眼神。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 661px !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">文钢太有一个自闭症的哥哥，妈妈一直偏爱生病的哥哥，告诉文钢太要懂事，要照顾哥哥。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他不开心的时候，不可以，因为这样会影响到哥哥。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他独自出去玩时，不可以，因为哥哥就没有人照顾了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">从小，他看到的只有妈妈抱哥哥的背影。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">自己只有懂事，乖巧，照顾好哥哥，才能得到妈妈的笑容。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">在他的家庭里，只能接受他的好情绪，所以长大后，他自己也非常讨厌自己的坏情绪，更别提如何调节与纾解。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 661px !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">一个孩子，在初次表达情感的时候，如果能被人接受，那么他们的内心也会获得安慰。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">如果继续被漠视，他们会采用过激的方式表达情感，比如发脾气、摔东西、打人。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">当他们发现，不管自己怎么样，都不会被看到的时候，他们可能会收起自己的坏情绪，扮演一个被别人喜欢的小孩。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">父母不能接纳孩子的情绪，那孩子自己也就不能接纳自</strong><strong style="outline: 0px;">己</strong><strong style="outline: 0px;">。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">之前有一起中学生自杀事件，男孩因为在教室玩牌被老师“叫家长”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">妈妈在楼道里，一直训斥男孩，还扇了男孩两个耳光。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">母亲离开后，男孩沉默两分钟，然后爬上栏杆纵身而下。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;letter-spacing: 0.544px;box-shadow: rgb(170, 170, 170) 0em 0em 1em 0px;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 661px !important;"></span><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如果妈妈和孩子之间，有一个人懂得如何处理与排解自己的情绪，有一个人能接纳自己的坏情绪，可能结果会完全不同。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">每一个悲伤的心灵，都遭受过创伤的时刻。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">那些小的情绪，我们可能觉得孩子“过一会儿就好了”。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">但是实际上，那种伤害就像文火炖肉，看起来攻击性不大，实际上早已伤筋动骨。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-size: 24px;">03</strong></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);font-size: 16px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">不同的回应方式</strong></span></p><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;letter-spacing: 0.5px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);font-size: 16px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">养育不同性格的孩子</strong></span><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></section><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">《孩子，你的情绪我在乎》一书中指出，家长面对孩子的情绪，往往有四种不同的应对方式。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">每一种家长，都对应着孩子不同的内心小世界。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">比如爸爸要带着孩子去看牙医，孩子非常害怕，不仅不配合还大哭大闹，对家长拳打脚踢。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">可是，爸爸和妈妈平时都要按时上班，周六日好不容易抽出时间给孩子看牙。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">如果这周不看，可能又要拖到下周。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">这时，如果你是家长，你会如何应对？</span></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-1" style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; list-style-type: square;"><li style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;"><p style="margin-top: 24px;outline: 0px;line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“没什么大不了的”——缩小问题型家长</span></strong></span></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">为了让孩子配合家长，赶紧把问题解决，家长可能会选择物质奖励、语言安慰的方法。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">告诉孩子，一点也不疼，看完牙齿我们去吃冰淇淋。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">这类家长，看重的是如何解决自己的事情，而不是关注孩子的情绪。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">我们往往觉得，孩子的事情没有多大不了，哪有成年人的事情重要。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">可如果我们真的对他们漠视忽视，用轻描淡写的方式对待孩子的问题，其实是对负面情绪的一种逃避。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">家长本身不能面对自己的负面情绪，自然想方设法消灭孩子的这些情绪。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;">在这种环境中长大的孩子，他们不仅不能调节自己的情绪，还会怀疑自己。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 25px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;">之所以不被喜欢，是因为自己太糟糕了。</span></strong></span></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-1" style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; list-style-type: square;"><li style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;"><p style="margin-top: 24px;outline: 0px;line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“你哭也没用”——压抑型家长</span></strong></span></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">压抑型家长不只是漠视孩子的情绪，他们甚至表现出对孩子负面情绪的厌恶。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">比如孩子在哭闹的时候，家长生气地训斥：再哭信不信我揍你，再哭我就不要你了！</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">家长的目光关注的不是孩子的情绪，而是孩子的行为。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">笑是一种好的行为，哭就是一种坏的行为。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">研究表明，压抑型家长养育的孩子，自尊水平比较低，情绪调教能力差。</strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">尤其男孩会更早学会抽烟、酗酒，更早有性意识。</strong></span></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-1" style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; list-style-type: square;"><li style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;"><p style="margin-top: 24px;outline: 0px;line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“那就算了吧”——放任型家长</span></strong></span></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">做了父母之后，很多人都会变得心软。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">尤其是看到孩子哭闹的时候，那孩子就做什么都对了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">孩子哭着不想看牙，“宝贝啊，别哭了，妈妈知道你疼，咱们下次再来吧”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">这类父母看起来能接纳孩子的情绪，也没有把情绪分为好与坏。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">但是实际上，这样的父母，会让孩子分不清对错，意识不到行为的界限。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;">凡事只考虑自己，不考虑别人，这并不是情绪调教的最好方式。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">正如洪水暴发时，一味堵住不是办法，一味泄洪也不是办法。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">必须有一条好的沟渠，把洪水引出，才能让洪水不伤人。</span></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-1" style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; list-style-type: square;"><li style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;"><p style="margin-top: 24px;outline: 0px;line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“我们想想到底发生了什么”——情绪训练型家长</span></strong></span></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">聪明的父母，对待孩子的情绪就像疏导洪水一般，在理解与接纳的基础上，划定事情的明确界限。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">我们应该告诉孩子，我懂你的恐惧，你可以哭一会，但是你不能因为害怕而对牙医发脾气，我们更应该了解为什么来看牙齿。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">首先与孩子建立情感联结，与他们感同身受。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">然后告诉他们，行为的底线就是不能伤害别人，不能伤害自己。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">最后，一起寻求解决问题的办法，让孩子了解，我们为什么要来做这件事。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;">悲伤、恐惧、愤怒、嫉妒、厌烦，都是生命中不同的情绪，我们允许孩子有多样的情绪，他们才能拥有多彩的人生。</span></strong></span></p><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center;"><strong style="outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;font-size: 24px;">04</strong></strong></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">从小我们接受的教育中，词语要分为褒义词贬义词，情绪自然也被划分为好的坏的。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">哭的时候，要忍住泪水；伤心的时候，要强颜欢笑；恐惧的时候，要假装坚强。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">可能我们自身，都是没有被接纳过的孩子。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">我们的家庭，也没有允许我们悲伤与消极过。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">但是，这并不妨碍我们接纳与引导孩子，在接纳与尊重的过程中，也许我们还能治愈那个受过伤的自己。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我女儿是个胆子很小的人，平时见到陌生的人，尤其是高大威猛的男士，都会非常害怕。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有一次她见到我的一个朋友，她说妈妈我有点害怕，我可以哭一会儿吗？</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我伸开双臂，告诉她，来吧，我抱着你哭一会儿，哭完你再看看叔叔是不是还在冲你笑。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">说完那句话的时候，我的眼眶也湿润了。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">原来，被怀抱接纳的坏情绪，是如此幸福。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">原来，能在父母怀里放肆大哭的孩子，是如此难得。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">点个“在看”，我们要允许孩子笑，更允许他们哭。</strong></span></section><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">正如我们也该接纳自己，抱抱自己一样。</span></p><section style="text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;">-END-</span></section><p style="margin-top: 25px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: normal;"><span style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 13px;"><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;">来源：</span><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;">萨提亚育儿（ID：</span><span style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;">satiryuer），传播萨提亚、NLP、催眠、家排、NLP教练技术、亲密关系等实用心理学，与大师相遇，让心理学快速改变你的人生。</span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="87458" style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85855" style="outline: 0px;"><section data-width="100%" style="outline: 0px;width: 651.016px;"><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></p></section></section></section><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p></div><p></p>
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