巧妙应对孩子的“逆反心理”
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; background-color: rgb(254, 245, 239); font-size: 16px; visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;text-align: center;line-height: 0;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;visibility: visible;"></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;font-size: 14px;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;visibility: visible;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);visibility: visible;"> </span></section><p style="text-align: justify;text-indent: 2em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);">墨菲定律说：“孩子到了一定时期，父母越是禁止什么，他们越想去做什么。”处于青春期的孩子心理非常敏感，行为比较任性，喜欢和父母唱反调，并极度想要证明自己的独立性，摆脱家长的控制，达到自己向往的所谓的“自由”。这种表现在心理学中被称为“逆反心理”。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify;text-indent: 2em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify;text-indent: 2em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="text-indent: 2em;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);">造成孩子“逆反心理”的原因除了孩子自身的生理和心理需求外，父母的影响及教育更为重要。那么，作为父母，面对孩子出现的“逆反心理”及情绪，应该怎么做呢？</span><br></p><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 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inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;background-color: rgb(80, 117, 110);visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">理解孩子的立场</strong></p></section></section><section style="margin-left: -10px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 35px;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 0;transform: rotateY(180deg);visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;visibility: visible;"></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;text-align: center;justify-content: center;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 20px;flex: 0 0 auto;align-self: center;height: auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(240, 210, 190);height: 1px;visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left;line-height: 0;width: 0px;vertical-align: top;visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;justify-content: center;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;visibility: visible;"><section style="padding: 10px 20px 20px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 609.276px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(197, 213, 210);visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"> “逆反心理”其实是孩子要经历的一个心理发展过程。在这一过程中，他们迫切地希望别人将自己看作成年人，尊重他作为“成年人”的自尊。所以在这一时期，父母在处理任何问题之前，请先理解孩子的想法和感受。如果父母能够从孩子的角度看待问题，就更容易获得他们的信任。</p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></p><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;justify-content: center;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="margin-right: -10px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 35px;flex: 0 0 auto;height: 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solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(197, 213, 210);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"> 亲子之间良好的沟通交流需要展现理解和尊重。父母与孩子保持开放、诚实和有效的交流非常重要。请避免使用批评和命令的语气，要采用鼓励和支持的方式来沟通，不要轻易批评和指责。当孩子回避、不愿立刻交流时，家长需要给他们一些时间和空间，可以创造一个轻松、愉快的交流氛围，而不是在他们情绪低落或疲惫时不停地追问。父母给予孩子足够的自主权，可以帮助他们发展独立性和责任感。</p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></p><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;justify-content: center;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="margin-right: -10px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 35px;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 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