孩子被忽视的情绪，是成长路上的“地雷” | 精选
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;text-wrap: wrap;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, "system-ui", Arial, sans-serif;text-align: center;color: rgba(87, 83, 83, 0.96);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 2px;visibility: visible !important;width: 637px !important;"></span></p><section><span style="color: rgb(217, 33, 66);font-size: 16px;"><strong>作者 | 鱼爸</strong></span></section><section><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong style="color: rgb(217, 33, 66);font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">来源 | 公众号养育男孩（ID:breedboy）</strong></span><br></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><fieldset style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; padding: 2px; max-width: 100%; min-width: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: 微软雅黑; clear: both; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 36px; height: 36px; width: 36px; text-align: center; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 50%; text-shadow: rgb(165, 165, 165) 0px 0px 1px; border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; background-color: rgb(219, 219, 219); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; height: 32px; width: 32px; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 50%; text-shadow: rgb(165, 165, 165) 0px 0px 1px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">1</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></fieldset><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这几年有一句话非常流行，叫“你若懂我，该有多好！”</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;">甚至成为一代人的心声，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;">特别是年轻一代的父母，常常会发出这样的喟叹。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">因为太多的人，在自己成长的过程中，内心时常是被父母忽略的。</span><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">老一辈的父母，因为社会环境所致，更重视孩子吃饱穿暖，相对忽视孩子的精神需求、忽视孩子的情绪。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><fieldset style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; padding: 2px; max-width: 100%; min-width: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: 微软雅黑; clear: both; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 36px; height: 36px; width: 36px; text-align: center; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 50%; text-shadow: rgb(165, 165, 165) 0px 0px 1px; border-width: initial; border-style: none; border-color: initial; background-color: rgb(219, 219, 219); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; height: 32px; width: 32px; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 50%; text-shadow: rgb(165, 165, 165) 0px 0px 1px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">2</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></fieldset><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪这个东西，与生俱来，在胎儿时期就有了。</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">对孩子来说，第一次的情感表达应该是“哭”。</span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一个小婴儿来到人世，用哭声唤来父母亲的保护，</span></strong></span><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;">然后用哭声来表达自己的感受或者需求。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">可是在大人的世界里，往往会被情绪分类，一类是好情绪，一类是坏情绪。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，好的情绪大家喜闻乐见，但是一遇到坏情绪就崩溃。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们见得最多的一种情况是“大人无法忍受孩子的哭声”。</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">最初的时候，我也是如此，听到孩子哭，内心也是崩溃的。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是当我正视孩子的这种情绪，并且积极去弄懂这种情绪背后的原因时，</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">就不会孩子一哭，马上崩溃。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">还有一种经常被用到的方法就是“遗弃威胁”，</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">记得有一次，看到一个3岁多的孩子在路上追着他的妈妈。</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);">一边哭着，一边追着喊着：</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“妈妈，我错了，我不买了”“妈妈，妈妈……”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是那个妈妈气冲冲地头也不回，一直到了拐角的地方才回头看一眼：</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“你还这样就不要你了。”</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;">“你下次还敢不敢了？”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这时孩子擦着泪赶紧跑了过去。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这是很多父母经常用的方法，</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">只要孩子不听话，直接丢一边，威胁说不要他了。</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);">当孩子吓得瑟瑟发抖时，孩子就会顺从。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">可是孩子的感受你真的明白吗？</span></strong></span><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;">用这种方法赢得孩子的顺从，却忽视孩子的感受。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实一点也不高明，反而伤害孩子。</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></strong></span></p><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 17px;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一位儿童心理家</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); box-sizing: border-box !important;">说：</span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“</span><span style="font-size: 17px;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">通常情况孩子在短时间内无法找回状态。痛苦的感觉长时间淹没了他们。渐渐地，失落反抗的情绪占了主导，家庭交流越发陷入恶性循环。</span>”</span></p></blockquote><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">的确如此，一个小小的孩子，本来就是学会控制情绪的过程。</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">如果父母没有去给予足够的关注和爱，而是忽视孩子的情绪，</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);">最后孩子会更加叛逆，甚至变得歇斯底里。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">因为内心从没得到过理解，情绪又不知如何表达，</span><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">这样的亲子关系只会越来越糟糕。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 2em; 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