一定不要和青春期的孩子较劲！
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">10多岁的孩子叛逆起来，仿佛就像变了个人，总是格外难以管教。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实，如何与青春期的孩子相处，是有方法可依的哦~<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子小的时候，即使再叛逆，父母们似乎都有办法“收拾”他们。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不管方法是软是硬，反正孩子们总会很容易就能消停下来——至于是否很快又反复，另当别论。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是，当孩子们逐渐迈向青春期的门槛，一切似乎都变得不一样了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一般女孩在10岁前后、男孩在12岁前后，就会进入青春期。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这个时候的亲子关系往往会进入新的阶段。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那些懂得放手、保持自我成长的父母，会更容易和青春期的孩子打成一片。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而那些控制欲强、一直停留原地的父母，更容易与孩子发生严重的冲突。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大量孩子离家出走、自杀的悲剧事件，就是发生在这个年龄段前后。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子正处于青春期，用以前的教育方法，尤其是强制的严厉的，简单粗暴的家长作风式的教育，当然是不管用了，只能让孩子的心离父母越来越远。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">或者说，是不能与孩子的眼下的心理特征相匹配。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家是孩子最温暖的港湾，父母是孩子最亲密的最可依恋的对象，而孩子却不愿回家或故意拖延回家时间，为什么？</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他一定有他不愿回的理由。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">先不要想孩子怎么不听话，先静下心来，从父母自身找找原因，这与父母长期的教育方式有关。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春期的孩子，自主意识增强了，自我意识感和自尊心也强了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他希望被尊重，被理解，被认可，被肯定，他需要心理支持，情感安慰。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他需要一个民主，平等，宽容的家庭环境来容纳他的成长。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果家庭不能提供温暖，平和的成长环境，父母依然采用过于严厉，简单说教的方式，那么，等于在激发孩子的逆反意识，把孩子逼向父母期望的反面，导致过激行为的产生。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，在孩子长大之前，所有父母都有必要了解一下，不远的将来，你将面对一个怎样的孩子，又该如何应对。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89664" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="384:431" data-width="100%" style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 677px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">0<span data-original-title="" title="" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">1</span></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">从生活入手去改变</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春期孩子由于生理上的急剧变化，出现各种各样的心理反应，大部分是自我意识觉醒的表现形式。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他们试图冲破约束和管教是正常的，甚至犯一些错误也是成长需要付出的代价。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对于青春期的孩子，生活上父母注意让孩子独立，充分挖掘孩子的自理能力，让孩子养成处理自己生活琐事的习惯。</strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: red; box-sizing: border-box !important;">否则事事代劳，反而会与他自我意识的觉醒增强相矛盾。</span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其次从权威的影响向客观的分析引导过渡</strong>，</span>因为社会的迅猛发展，父母常常一开口就显得很外行，权威性渐渐丢失。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要避免指令式的“教育”</strong>，孩子在遇到困难、问题、挫折之后，只是需要来自父母的客观分析和引导，而且，这种分析和引导还应该是朋友式的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">再次，要耐心持久地与孩子一起做他喜欢的事，接近孩子，发现优点，给予鼓励，并学会“示弱”。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">为孩子创造超越父母的机会，凡是孩子做得好的地方(不局限学习方面)，都要夸赞，进一步引向孩子学习。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">注意万不可只重视学习，再加上许多父母付出了很多，对孩子的要求顺势拔高，出现比较持续和厉害的不满情绪，影响与孩子的一切交流。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;height: auto;width: 100%;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">让孩子学会承担责任</strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">处在青春期的孩子有了对事物的自我辨知能力</strong>，做父母的如果没有注意到孩子的变化，而是一味地像以往一样，牵着孩子按自己设计的路线走，自然就会引起孩子不满，有意跟父母对着干。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要与孩子融洽相处，父母就得正确认识孩子，让孩子<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">学会承担责任。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子小时候对事物的认知性不强，这就需要父母的提醒与帮助。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子渐渐长大，父母习惯了孩子对自己的依赖，忽略了孩子成长，依然对孩子指手画脚，当然会让孩子厌烦。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以父母要让孩子学会承担责任，尤其是处在青春期的孩子。</strong></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89664" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="384:431" data-width="100%" style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 677px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">父母要会索取“爱”</strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不少父母在“爱”的问题上，只尽“给予”的义务，不讲“索取”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如此一来，日久天长会在孩子心中形成这样一个概念——<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">父母的爱是应该的。</span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">因此，要向孩子索爱，让孩子学会感恩。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一般父母对孩子的要求太低，如果孩子在饭桌上给自己夹菜就会感动万分，其实父母可以向孩子要求更多，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">聪明妈妈不妨撒娇，要让孩子觉得父母的不容易。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然可以向孩子多要求一点，孩子自然也会多回报一些。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">04</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不要开口就下“命令”</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春期的孩子特别敏感，所以父母不要开口就是下命令，“你应该......”“你不能......”如此一来，在孩子心里，你只是一个领导。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实，青春期的孩子渴望被当成大人，要让他感觉受到了尊重。</strong></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89664" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="384:431" data-width="100%" style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 677px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">05</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">签一份“保密合同”</strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">偷听孩子打电话、偷看孩子日记，或者是上网看孩子的留言等美其名曰是为了解孩子的行为，千万不要有。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">事实上，这是破坏孩子对父母信任度的首要杀手。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">和孩子签了一份 “保密合同”，写下什么事情是父母可以知道的，哪些是属于孩子的秘密，然后双方违规会怎么样。</strong></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89664" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="384:431" data-width="100%" style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 677px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">06</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">同一错误别老调重弹</strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对于同一错误，千万不能“老调重弹”，会引起孩子的厌烦情绪。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">批评中要切中要害，简短数语指明问题，也要避免<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“廉价”的表扬</strong></span>，过多的表扬使孩子对表扬失去敏感性，就会失去激励作用，甚至怀疑表扬的真实性。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">接下来，请多寻找孩子的闪光点，鼓励孩子，欣赏孩子，表扬孩子。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">给孩子新的积极的自我定位，建立孩子的自信系统。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">通过这种积极的方式（包括正面的积极的语言，爱的温暖的给予，细心的心灵的呵护，认可和接纳）等去影响孩子，让孩子感受到父母的爱和关注，孩子才能重新回到父母的身边。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">没有比心的遥远更难的教育。心近了，沟通畅通了，才有谈教育的资格。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;height: auto;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;"></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89664" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="384:431" data-width="100%" style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 677px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">07</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">改变孩子的不良行为</strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要想改变孩子的不良行为，并不是一朝一夕的事，其实更多的是，更关键的是，父母的观念一定要改变，<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">亲子间的关系模式是互动的，互相作用的。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这好比我们对待朋友，你对他和气，对方一定没理由对你不和气，你对他尊重，对方没理由不尊重你。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">亲子间关系也一样，请从高低式（父母高位，孩子低位，父母强势，孩子弱势）的教育模式换为平等式（把孩子当朋友对待）的教育模式试试，这样会比现在更好，会有所改善。</strong></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89664" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="384:431" data-width="100%" style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 677px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93821" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section hm_fix="362:500" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: transparent; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 9px 2px 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 3px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); border-bottom: 6px solid rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-size: 38px; font-weight: bold; box-sizing: border-box !important;">08</section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">总</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">之，在青春期孩子寻求自主性的过程中，冲突和权利斗争几乎是不可避免的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">然而，大多数孩子和父母能够解决好这些分歧，在维持彼此间积极情感的同时，重新调整与父母间的关系，使之变得更为平等。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而那些特别叛逆的孩子背后，往往都有一个原地踏步、不肯成长的父母。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，无论孩子处于哪个年龄段，父母保持自我的觉察和成长都至关重要。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">董进宇博士（著名教育家）说：</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个叛逆孩子的背后，都有个不肯长大的父母。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">生活没有彩排，也不可能重来，孩子的教育更是不能一拖再拖。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这个世界上父母是一个特殊的职业，每个人都是未经培训直接上岗的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以有的时候我们面对孩子会束手无措，为了孩子，父母应该时刻注意自己的教育方法和态度。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(192, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家庭教育的关键在父母，父母的方法和态度直接决定了能否和孩子融洽相处，能否使孩子顺利、健康、快乐地度过自己人生中的特殊时期。</strong></span></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; 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