每个人都需要一个“心理急救箱”
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86005" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="text-align: center; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;color: rgb(123, 123, 111);font-family: 微软雅黑;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 525px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></p><p style="text-align: center; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(130, 128, 128); line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个人都有情绪，</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(130, 128, 128); line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪伤害会给我们的身体和生活，</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(130, 128, 128); line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">带来极大的影响。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(130, 128, 128); line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">了解产生这些情绪的根源，</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(130, 128, 128); line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在各种情绪伤害中进行自救。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.45; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;color: rgb(123, 123, 111);font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 25.6px;display: block;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 22px !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="2484" style="max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="89%" style="margin: 10px auto; max-width: 100%; width: 484.156px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: right; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-style="font-size:14px;text-align:center" style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">怎样保护身体健康，我们从很小的时候就知道了，我们的生活里到处围绕着“健康”和“养生相关的信息和知识。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;">但怎样保护我们的心理健康呢？</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们直到长大成人甚至一把年纪了，都不知道该怎样保护自己的心理健康。</span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="24" style="max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 3px auto; padding: 15px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 24px; box-shadow: rgb(170, 170, 170) 0px 0px 3px; border-width: 2px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(240, 240, 240); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">现在精神亚健康的人越来越多，</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">多到几乎没几个心理真正健康的人了。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">越来越多的人：焦虑、压抑、暴躁、</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 28px; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪化、抑郁、失眠、精神紧张.....</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们通常会把自己的有些情绪和反应成为“负能量”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们逃避它、放任它、置之不理，让这些压抑的炸弹在体内不断发酵、爆炸。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">这些被我们忽视的心理伤害，远比身体伤害要频繁得多，例如失败、被拒绝、孤独、内疚……</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪伤害会给我们的身体和生活带来极大影响，下面这个短片是纽约大学临床心理学博士，曼哈顿私人心理医生盖伊·温奇的演讲，他擅长帮助病人将情绪急救的方法应用到日常生活。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在这里，他会告诉你，人们产生这些情绪的根源，以及如何改变我们的习惯，在各种情绪伤害中进行自救，保护我们的心理健康。</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section title="492，更新于2015-12-04 16:24" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(2, 204, 157); line-height: 25.6px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 5px auto; padding-top: 3px; padding-bottom: 3px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 2px solid rgb(178, 178, 178); border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(178, 178, 178); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 8px; max-width: 100%; border-top: 1px solid rgb(178, 178, 178); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(178, 178, 178); color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(178, 178, 178); line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 30px; text-transform: uppercase; font-family: 微软雅黑; color: rgb(83, 83, 83); box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪伤害带给我们的影响</span></p></section></section></section><section title="555，更新于2016-01-28 08:49" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section title="635，更新于2016-04-14 09:15" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 20px; text-align: center; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-bottom-left-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">1</span></section><section data-bglessp="20%" style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-bottom-right-radius: 3px; opacity: 0.5; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于孤独</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孤独是完全主观的定义，它完全取决于你是否觉得在情绪上或是交际上，和你周围的人相隔绝。</span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">香烟包装上印着“吸烟有害健康”的警告，但很少人知道一天吸两包“孤独”牌香烟的危害。长期孤独会提高14%的早逝性，还会引发高血压、高胆固醇，甚至影响人的免疫系统，比起这些，抽烟已经不算什么了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section title="635，更新于2016-04-14 09:15" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 20px; text-align: center; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-bottom-left-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">2</span></section><section data-bglessp="20%" style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-bottom-right-radius: 3px; opacity: 0.5; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于失败</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你的头脑告诉你：你做不到什么事，你无法拥有什么。而如果你相信了的话，你很快就放弃了，甚至都不去试一下，然后你就更加确信自己成功不了。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">你看，这就是为什么那么多人都无法充分发挥他们的潜能。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">因为一旦认定了某件事，我们很难改变看法。所以当你失败了，感到意气消沉是很自然的。但是我们通常不允许相信自己不会成功，就要和无助感斗争。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section title="635，更新于2016-04-14 09:15" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 20px; text-align: center; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-bottom-left-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">3</span></section><section data-bglessp="20%" style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-bottom-right-radius: 3px; opacity: 0.5; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于拒绝</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们都干过这事——尤其是当我们被拒绝之后：我们想我们要是这样就好了，要是不那样就好了，我们不断的去想我们犯的错、我们的缺点。然后陷入其中无法自拔，不停的悔恨、批判自己。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85556" style="max-width: 100%; color: inherit; line-height: 25px; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 24px; color: rgb(70, 70, 72); border-color: rgb(198, 198, 199); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 8px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(198, 198, 199); box-shadow: rgb(198, 198, 198) 0px 0px 5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 494px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们身体受伤了，</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">绝不会再往伤口上撒一把盐。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">但我们经常会拿刀捅自己的心理伤害，</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">还要残忍地看到底能捅多深。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 25px; text-align: center; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(123, 123, 111);line-height: 25.6px;display: block;background-color: rgb(247, 247, 247);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;height: 10px !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 22px !important;"></span></p><p style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; border-color: rgb(198, 198, 199); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">人们拒绝追求者的原因有很多，大部分都跟他们自己或追求者的缺点无关，最常见的原因是：他们认为两人之间没感觉，不来电。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，如果你被拒绝了，没有必要抓住自己的缺点不放。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">与恋爱关系相似，如果你被潜在的雇主拒绝，原因一般与你的缺陷无关，更有可能是因为你不适合那个公司或者职位。如果你被工作团队或上司排斥，大多数情况下是与组织的动态及其文化相关的，与你的性格和工作绩效无关。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section title="555，更新于2016-01-28 08:49" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section title="463，更新于2015-11-17 14:43" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 544px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section title="635，更新于2016-04-14 09:15" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 20px; text-align: center; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-bottom-left-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">4</span></section><section data-bglessp="20%" style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-bottom-right-radius: 3px; opacity: 0.5; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于自卑</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多研究表明，如果你的自尊心低落，你就更容易感到压力和焦虑，失败和拒绝会伤害你更深，你也需要更多的时间复原。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 11px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以如果你被拒绝了，首先应该做的事情是重新激活你的自尊心，而不是去疯狂地打击自尊心来发泄。</span></strong><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; white-space: pre-wrap; line-height: 25px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们需要改变不健康的心理习惯，当你经历感情上的痛苦时，要像真正的好朋友一样，爱护自己，保护你的自尊心。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section title="635，更新于2016-04-14 09:15" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 20px; text-align: center; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-bottom-left-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">5</span></section><section data-bglessp="20%" style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-bottom-right-radius: 3px; opacity: 0.5; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于反复回味</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">人们最常见又最不健康的习惯之一就是想太多。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">反复回味不愉快的事很容易变成习惯，而这个习惯代价很大，可能诱发抑郁症、酗酒、饮食失调，甚至心血管疾病。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">反复回想一件事的需要，会变得越来越强烈，但如果你专注在其他事情上，让那些担心、烦恼或其他情绪慢慢过去，感觉就会不一样。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">反复回味愤怒更为可怕的后果是：它所造成的烦躁，可以使我们对最温和的挑衅反应过度。因此，我们往往会把气撒在朋友和家人身上，卡住他们的脖子，以夸张的方式对日常的微小刺激做出反应。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section title="635，更新于2016-04-14 09:15" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; max-width: 100%; line-height: 20px; text-align: center; clear: both; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-left-radius: 3px; border-bottom-left-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">6</span></section><section data-bglessp="20%" style="padding: 5px 10px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-weight: 700; border-top-right-radius: 3px; border-bottom-right-radius: 3px; opacity: 0.5; background-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于内疚</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">在同情他人遭遇的不公方面，每个人都有自己的限度。如果限期已过，虽然在对方的要求下，出于责任感或愧疚，我们仍然会再次提供支持，但因为不得不这样做，心中很可能感到有些不满和愤怒。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有时候内疚感会长期占据我们的头脑，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">徘徊不去。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">小剂量的内疚，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">可以成为拯救个人行为的英雄。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">较大剂量的内疚，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">则可能成为心灵的毒药，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">搅扰我们的安宁，</span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">破坏我们最珍视的关系。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 544px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section title="291，更新于2015-09-25 09:21" style="margin: 5px auto; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); border-radius: 4px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 1px; border-style: dashed; border-color: rgb(2, 204, 157); border-radius: 4px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 5px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 30px; text-align: center; border-color: rgb(60, 40, 34); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 30px; text-align: center; border-color: rgb(60, 40, 34); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">恢复自我价值感的练习</strong></span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(60, 40, 34); line-height: 30px; text-align: center; border-color: rgb(60, 40, 34); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">下面的练习会帮助你意识到自己性格中有意义的方面，恢复你的自我价值感。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">1. 列一张书面清单，写出你认为自己最有价值的五个性格、特点或品性，尽量涉及一些和你被拒绝有关的方面。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">一定要花时间仔细思考你的重要品质（例如，如果你被追求对象拒绝，那么，你可以列出自己的相关优点：有爱心、忠诚、善于倾听、体贴和可靠等。）</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">2. 按照各种品行的重要性为其排序。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">3. 选择前三项中的两项，针对每一项写一篇短文（一两段即可）。涵盖以下几点：</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">为什么这种品行对你来说很重要？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">这种品行是如何影响你的人生的？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">它为什么是你的自我形象的重要组成部分？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">用法用量：当你遭到拒绝时使用，如有必要，重复使用。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">疗效：舒缓感情伤害和情绪痛苦，重建受损的自尊。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(60, 40, 34); text-align: center; border-color: rgb(60, 40, 34); line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">缓解我们痛苦的唯一方式就是原谅自己。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们这一生，最大的敌人，不是别人，而是自己。</strong></span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">自我宽恕的目的是与我们的错误行为努力和解。这样能够减少罪恶感，使我们不再回避被我们伤害的人，减轻了我们自我惩罚和自我毁灭的倾向。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: inherit; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 24px; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">版权说明：</span><span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 24px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">作者 盖伊·温奇选自《情绪急救：应对各种日常心理伤害的策略与方法》 <span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 24px; white-space: pre-wrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;">视频来源于网络</span></span></span></p></section></section></section><p data-darkmode-bgcolor-16235117860882="rgb(25, 25, 25)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16235117860882="#fff|rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-color-16235117860882="rgb(163, 163, 163)" data-darkmode-original-color-16235117860882="#fff|rgb(25, 25, 25)" data-style="margin: 0.63em 8px 5px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); color: rgb(25, 25, 25); border-width: 0px; 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