孩子真正的起跑线不是分数，是心理健康的程度
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">网上流行一句话：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“很多孩子一直在等父母一句道歉，很多父母却用一辈子等孩子一声谢谢。”</span></strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">重温《家有儿女》，我感触最深的是，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">重组家庭里的原生家庭状态，是给孩子最好的教育。</strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">刘星和毫无血缘关系的夏雨、夏雪姐弟相处愉快、健康成长！他们比同龄人更阳光、健康，能把孩子教育成这样，得益于夏东海和刘梅的家庭教育理念。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子真正的起跑线，不是分数，是心理健康程度。</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 320px !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">刘星因成绩退步而沮丧，夏东海没有选择批评教育，而是鼓励他不要用成绩衡量自己！每个人都有优点和缺点，会因退步而难过，这是对自己更好的鼓励。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">夏东海给他信心，希望他以后能够取得更大进步，受到爸爸鼓励，他确实进步很多。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多家长期望太高，导致孩子成绩不好产生恐惧、焦虑，甚至让亲情崩盘。</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家庭教育引发的焦虑时常发生，不同家庭存在的不同教育问题时刻给家长们敲着警钟。前段时间大火的电视剧<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">《少年派》简直演绎了上万家庭存在的教育问题</strong>，林妙妙这个角色直击很多家长心窝。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">林妙妙因她所谓的“事业”放弃学习，成绩大幅下降被叫家长，王胜男跟林大伟苦口婆心，她就是不为所动，一气之下王胜男砸了她的直播设备，林妙妙不听管教要跳楼。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">最后如任何收场？</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">王胜男气晕住院，林妙妙放弃跳楼。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很显然，林妙妙的跳楼跟父母有直接关系，因为她的家庭存在很大问题，林妙妙，就是处在不健康家庭状态下成长的少女。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; 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max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">父母不懂道歉</strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子永远无法学会原谅与成长</strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(73, 73, 73); font-size: 16px; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);letter-spacing: 0.544px;caret-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在我小孩上一年级的时候，老师要求父母和孩子一起做手抄报，但我把手抄报的主题理解错了，导致了孩子完成不了任务，他很不开心。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当时我就跟他承认了自己的错误：“儿子，很抱歉，是我把手抄报的主题搞错了，爸爸有时也会犯错，但没关系，大不了重做一份，怎么样？”</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我道歉之后，孩子扭捏了一下，但没过多久就自己把材料准备好了，让我和他再做一份新的手抄报。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">之所以我会真诚地向孩子道歉，是想让孩子看到，即使是他崇拜的爸爸，犯错误也是正常的、能被允许的。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">然而，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有些父母</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很在意自己作为父母的权威感，即使无心犯错了，也不肯承认，</strong></span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">甚至会用“权威感”把错误推到孩子身上，或者为了推卸责任重新定义对错的标准，这些都是父母无法承担责任的表现。</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">与此同时，这些父母会认为：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我没有做错”，“我是在为你好”，“这是我的孩子，我不可以跟他道歉”</strong>，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">总是把所有的东西都合理化了。</span></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我是胡慎之</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">他们说我是国内屈指可数的亲子关系心理专家</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实我只是比普通人更懂孩子内心</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">《为他而战》节目录制现场<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(65, 70, 75); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">作为</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">《爸爸去哪儿》《变形计》《爱情保卫战》</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">等多个综艺节目的幕后心理咨询导师，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我一直在研究</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">适用于中国家庭教育的理念</strong></span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">，在这20多年的“亲子关系”研究中</strong>，我发现很多家长面对孩子这些问题竟无从下手：</span></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; width: 577.422px; list-style-type: square;"><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子过度沉迷游戏不愿学习；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">跟别的孩子相比显得不自信；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">自律性不高，做事拖拖拉拉；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">调皮捣蛋，越来越难管教；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春期的孩子很叛逆，有的孩子甚至出现早恋行为；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">拒绝跟大人沟通，为一点小事学会撒谎；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子不愿上学家长着急无果；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">坏毛病越积越多，孩子不服管教顶撞他人；</span></strong></span></p></li><li style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">......</span></strong></span></p></li></ul><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一旦你的孩子出现这些问题，而你不知如何沟通教育，多种尝试无果后，你会发现孩子刻意疏远你，越来越不听话！</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02</strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">小孩子撒谎</strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多时候是本能反应</strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(73, 73, 73); font-size: 16px; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);letter-spacing: 0.544px;caret-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 661px !important;"></span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有些家长来跟我说，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">发现自己家孩子长大后开始学会撒谎了</strong>，当面戳穿他的时候他又不承认，现在孩子有事都隐瞒起来，不知道该怎么沟通？</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">首先我们需要强调一下，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">无意撒谎那不叫撒谎，故意撒谎才叫撒谎。</span></strong></span></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 425px !important;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如在《妈妈是超人3》里面，贾静雯教她的两个女儿唱歌，没想到咘咘突然起身将妹妹波妞一把推到在地。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">贾静雯表情马上严肃起来，追问咘咘为什么要推倒妹妹，咘咘说：“我想抱抱她”。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很明显，咘咘在这里采取了一种本能的反应。看到妈妈生气，想要掩盖这个事情，让自己能够避免承担后果，或者是接受惩罚。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我常跟我儿子说，没问题的，哪怕你把天捅了一个窟窿也没关系，我们都可以讨论。</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">为什么这样说？因为我要给他提供一个“途径”，不让他那么害怕，害怕到要撒谎。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">当你给了孩子一个有可能去澄清的机会，或者是一个可以让他改正自己过失的环境时，他才不需要用撒谎的方式来逃避。</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如我小儿子3岁多的时候，有一次觉得插在电脑上面那个一闪一闪的U盘很好玩，就丢马桶里了，他还拉着我去看。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我当时就崩溃了，但是我想如果马上把他打一顿以后，他就学会撒谎了。因为我知道这不是他的错，所以我后来只是告诉他，爸爸电脑上面的东西不能动。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我问他如果我把你喜欢的玩具扔掉了，你会不会难过？他说会，然后我说，是的，所以你扔掉爸爸的东西，爸爸也会难过，他就学会了，他也不会再犯类似的错，然后申请被“惩罚”。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">因此我们可以看到</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">，</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子撒谎最初的动机就是趋利避害、避免惩罚。</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">而一般到了7岁以后，孩子才有可能是有意识地去撒谎、故意捏造事实。</span></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子在7岁以前，很多所谓的撒谎其实是本能性的。所以我等到我孩子差不多6岁的时候，才告诉他这3点：</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><blockquote style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">1 不要撒谎，有什么都可以说出来</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">2 为自己做的事情负责</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">3 同样的去尊重自己和别人</span></p></blockquote><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); box-sizing: border-box !important;">与父亲决裂，曾抑郁寻死</span></strong></span></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(73, 73, 73); font-size: 16px; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);letter-spacing: 0.544px;caret-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;height: 26.44px !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 661px !important;"></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(73, 73, 73); font-size: 16px; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">随着父母与孩子的相处时间增长，无可避免地会出现一些</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(190, 26, 29); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;">亲子矛盾</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">。<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如何建立良好的亲子关系，正确处理孩子的情绪，就成了千万父母的心头大石。</strong></span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">或许你会认为，我研究关系心理，一定是个处理关系的高手。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但其实，跟大多数人一样，我曾经也经常为“搞不定关系”而痛苦不堪。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">跟父亲决裂，女友出走，生意失败，遭遇车祸，一系列糟糕的事情在我的人生中呼啸而来...</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我患上了抑郁，把自己关在8平米的小房间，呆了8个月，</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;">就在我准备好了遗书自杀时，遇到了一位心理咨询师。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他问我，你的人生中有没有一件让你最痛苦的事情，到现在都难以释怀。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在我脑海里闪过的，是我的父亲。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">中考那天，我喝醉了酒，导致下午考试交了白卷。成绩公布，距离所有人认为我有能力上的重点高中差了10分。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当时父亲从贵州赶来无锡，拿了一把斧头直接朝我砍来，险些丧命。</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;">从此，我跟父亲，很少再有联系。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">心理医生听完我的故事，问了一句：<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“你有没有想过，你为什么要在中考的时候去喝酒？</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">”</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><blockquote style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498); max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">心理医生说，“实际上，你想用自己的失败，去伤害你父亲。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你希望他沮丧，让他感到自己无能为力，让他体会你受伤的感觉。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而你父亲之所以要拿斧头砍你，是因为，他真的被你伤到了。</span>”</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你努力摆脱父亲的影子，但你不知道的是，在之后的所有关系里，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你成为了你的“父亲”。</strong></span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一语点醒梦中人。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“你不行！</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你很糟！</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">”</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这是我记忆里父亲经常对我说的话，却变成了我对待女友的方式，对工作伙伴的方式，对待孩子的方式。</span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">客体关系理论认为，我们所有的人际关系，本质上都是由我们的内在关系模式决定的。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这里的内在关系模式，指的是：</span></section><blockquote style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498); max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">小时候和重要亲人互动，内化到你的潜意识里，所形成的一种对待关系的模式，</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他会在你长大后不断影响着你和别人的交往。</span></strong></span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这恰恰是我关系中的真相。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我对待别人的方式—<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对女友严苛，疏离，对孩子严厉，动不动发火，对工作伙伴的不信任，</strong>实际上无意识地复制了父亲对我的关系模式。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这个发现成为了一个契机，为了跳出这种潜意识“怪圈”，我开始学习心理学，研究人和人的关系模式。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">整整5年，我翻遍了几乎所有的跟关系、人际有关的心理学著作，也花了大量的时间跟不同的来访者接触，最终发现：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个人的内在关系模式，其实是不一样的，</strong></span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每种模式的背后，藏着原生家庭的烙印，也对应着一个人应对不同关系的种种“潜意识”反应。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">凭借在关系模式中的自我觉察，以及对他人关系模式的分析，我的人生发生了巨大的改变。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我懂得了<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">跟父亲最舒服的相处方式，</strong>我们俩的关系，也变得不再像仇人，而是彼此互相支持的朋友。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大儿子龙龙曾写信对我说：<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">感觉我们之间的关系不像父子，更像“兄弟”，有这样一个学心理学的爸爸让我的生活充满了色彩。</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;letter-spacing: 0.544px;border-radius: 4px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; min-height: 1em; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">和孩子在巴颜喀拉山徒步旅行</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我一直觉得是心理学救了我，我决定弃医、弃商，学习心理学。那时候我一边在心理医生处实习，一边攻读大学的心理学专业，同时，还做着两份销售工作和抚养我儿子。</span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); color: rgb(89, 89, 89); box-sizing: border-box !important;">接触大量心理学知识和许多真实案例后，我决定不让过去父亲对待自己的暴力态度和行为遗传给下一代，我要按照自己的理念对待孩子。</span></strong></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 346px !important;"></span></p><p style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「心灵成长家园」，搜索「xinling_JY」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/fpjLohDsftHCf-AWcbIqEg">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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