不想做情绪的奴隶?这6个情绪管理方法,助你掌控好自己的生活!
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2;padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 16px;"><section style="font-size: 15px; padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;">音频版课程链接,让你解放双手,边走边听:</em><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;">https://www.ximalaya.com/gerenchengzhang/3341211/403337238</em></span></p></section><section style=" margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="width: 100%;height: 1.8em;padding-top: 0.9em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(243, 231, 233);width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section><section style="margin-top: -3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="float: left;width: 5px;height: 5px;margin-left: -5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: initial;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section><section style="float: right;width: 5px;height: 5px;margin-right: -5px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: initial;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section><section style="clear: both;box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="border-radius: 1em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-image: linear-gradient(120deg, rgb(132, 250, 176) 0%, rgb(143, 211, 244) 100%);height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);margin-top: -1em;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">凡事都有解</p></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(60, 133, 179);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">导语:你有过情绪崩溃的时刻吗?</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">当愤怒、恐惧、担忧……这些负面的情绪突然袭来的时候,是不是像一座大山一样压得你喘不过气来,只觉得大脑一片空白?</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">情绪崩溃的结果常常是失去理智,做出一些可能让自己后悔的事情。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">每个人都想希望自己能够保持情绪稳定,但当一些事情发生的时候,会发现情绪完全不受自己控制。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">今天的文章带你一起来了解情绪是如何产生的?又有什么方法能够减少负面情绪产生的不良后果?</span></p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin: 20px 0% 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;background-image: linear-gradient(to left, rgb(253, 213, 231), rgb(194, 226, 249));border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin: -10px 0% 5px;transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; padding: 5px; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 17px;padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">不良情绪的后果</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">生活中那些情绪崩溃的时刻:</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">1、小王因为肥胖,在公司经常遭到同事取笑,还会背地里给他起绰号。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">一天小王不小心被绊倒了,一个同事马上过来奚落他,说什么“胖子摔倒应该不痛吧,是不是有被弹起来的感觉?”说完大家哈哈大笑。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">小王觉得一股怒火冲上来,对同事大打出手,造成对方鼻梁骨折。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">结果被公司解雇,还要赔偿对方的医药费,甚至有被拘留的可能。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">2、小静的男友劈腿,被闺蜜看到,小静得知后去质问男友,男友却轻描淡写的说:“不爱了。”,就这样被分手的小静崩溃了。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">小静超过一星期不出门,每天以泪洗面,极度不甘心。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">3、小坤在疫情期间被公司裁员,由于之前工作轻松安稳,工作多年能力上并没有什么增长,突然失业,让小坤很慌。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">面试了几次都因为表现不佳而失败,这让他对未来更加的担忧,每天惶惶不可终日,渐渐地把自己封闭起来,不愿意与别人交流,甚至放弃了投简历,整个人精神状态极差。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">以上几个都是生活中遇到的真实案例,很多人应该会有感触,当一些事情来临的时候,情绪崩溃只是一瞬间的事情。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">情绪是生物受到外界环境的刺激而产生的一种应激反应。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">看过动物世界的人一定对这个场景很熟悉:</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">羚羊在河边喝水,当草丛里发出一点声响时,羚羊马上拔腿就跑,这是生物的本能。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">应激机制是一种自我保护,用来对抗外界的风险、不可预知的危险、或是可能发生的危险。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">应激反应是大多行为方式的驱动力,应激反应在动物的行为驱动中是第一优先级。</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">就像是羚羊听到声音,不会疑惑、思考,而是立刻跑掉。</p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">应激反应受到身体内激素分泌的影响,是第一时间的第一反应。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如人愤怒、生气的时候,都是受到刺激后没有经过思考的第一反应,来得很迅猛,没有反应时间。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">正是因为没有反应的时间,很难控制,所以不良的情绪经常产生以下几种表现:</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1、失去理智。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">因为是情绪是第一时间的第一反应,是快速的条件反射,所以这个过程中会失去理智,什么道理、原则都被抛到了脑后,行为变得极为不控。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2、容易自责。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">有的人在负面情绪产生后,容易责怪自己,认为自己没有用、无能。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">有些人甚至会在情绪崩溃的时候折磨自己,不迟、不喝、不睡,甚至自虐。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3、无法自拔。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">明知道自己的行为不对,但在情绪中无法自拔,义无反顾地朝着错误的方向上走。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如有的人分手后,疯狂给前任打电话、发短信求复合的行为,明知道不对,但就是控制不住自己。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4、自暴自弃。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">不良情绪会把人变得人不像人鬼不像鬼,逃避,选择破罐子破摔,最后毁掉人生和未来。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">文章开头的三个案例中的小王、小静、小坤,都是因为情绪崩溃,而产生了错误的行为,严重影响了自己的生活。</p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin: 20px 0% 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;background-image: linear-gradient(to left, rgb(253, 213, 231), rgb(194, 226, 249));border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin: -10px 0% 5px;transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; padding: 5px; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 17px;padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">情绪的产生过程</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">生活中很多人都有情绪崩溃的时候,也都知道需要控制情绪,但却不知道应该怎样做。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">想要控制情绪,首先要了解情绪产生的过程。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">情绪产生的过程:</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">人体通过感知外界,看、听、闻等方式,获取信息,将信息传递给大脑,大脑接收到这些信息,调取原有的存储进行比对,形成结论,做出好坏的判断。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">然后大脑将信号传递到人体的腺体,刺激腺体分泌激素,身体做出反应。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">这个过程是不可逆的,也就是说情绪一旦产生是无法马上消失的。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如小王听到同事的奚落,传递到大脑,大脑做出判断,认为同时是恶意的,对他进行侮辱,这些信息刺激到腺体,肾上腺素大量分泌,让他整个人紧张、亢奋,怒火中烧,控制不住自己打那个侮辱他的同事。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">小静听到男友对她说“不爱了”,大脑做出判断,男友劈腿,是个渣男,这让她产生难过、伤心的情绪,眼泪止不住往外流。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">小王打同事的行为,和小静的流泪都是情绪的结果,想要改变这个结果,就要找到情绪产生的缘由。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">人的情绪主要受到以下6个因素的影响:</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1、知识体系对信息的归类。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">接收到外界的信息时,会根据自己的知识体系对接收的信息进行归类。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">小王听到同事的话,明白这句话是对他的奚落,所以马上做出反应。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">但如果他面对的是一个外国人,说的是他不懂的外语,同样也是一句侮辱他的话,但由于他没听懂,那么他就不会产生愤怒的情绪,因为他现有的知识体系无法对这句话归类。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2、价值观对信息的评估。</strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">不同价值观影响人对不同事物的判断。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如同样是做公交车让座的事情,如果你的价值观认为年轻人给老人让座是天经地义的事情,那么当你遇到老人让你给他让座时,你判断是正常的,所以不会有情绪的波动。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">但如果你认为同样是花钱坐车,每个人都有权利坐,那当你遇到老人让你给他让座时,你的判断就是这个人无理取闹,你就会产生负面情绪。</p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3、经验教训信息的类比。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">有句话说“一朝被蛇咬十年怕井绳”,说的就是经验教训信息的类比。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">被蛇咬过的人,看到了蛇的样子,并且知道被蛇咬的痛,所以当他看到绳子的时候,大脑进行判断,有可能是蛇,有危险,所以他会选择远离。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">但如果没有见过蛇的人,比如一些小孩子,即使看到的是真的蛇他不知道有危险,就不会做出离开的行为。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4、自我认知对结果的预判。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">当人对自我认知不够清晰的时候,容易产生偏颇的看法。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如你认为自己不够漂亮,所以当其他人夸奖你漂亮的时候,你会认为对方是在调侃你,并不是真心认为你漂亮。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">5、思维体系对过程的分析。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">对事情有分析总结的能力,才能更加看清楚事情的真相。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">遇到事情缺乏这样的能力时,就容易感情用事,失去理智。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6、习惯的养成。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">一个人的习惯,也是行为的驱动。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如一个人很懒,做事情不积极,那么面对机会的时候,养成懒惰习惯的人可能会觉得机会是麻烦。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">而一个人养成了喜欢尝试、挑战的习惯,当他面对机会的时候,就会觉得是自己表现、成长的好事。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以如果想要控制情绪,就要从这六个因素入手。</p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin: 20px 0% 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;background-image: linear-gradient(to left, rgb(253, 213, 231), rgb(194, 226, 249));border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin: -10px 0% 5px;transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(-5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; padding: 5px; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: justify;font-size: 17px;padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">如何调整情绪</p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">知识体系、价值观、经验、自我认知、思维体系、习惯养成,都不是一朝一夕形成的,而是贯穿在人的成长过程中。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">所以想要解决情绪问题,绝不是当下、马上就能解决的,而是一个认知体系和精神养成的结果。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">每个人的成长都来源于经历,经历得越少,知识水平越低,价值观越容易扭曲,习惯于自我放纵的人,自控能力比较弱,所以更容易产生负面情绪,并且常常无法自拔。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">生活中会发现层次越低的人情绪来的越直接,更容易激动。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以情绪问题的核心是:见识太少、能力太弱、自私放纵的恶果。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">认知的真相是:看见的世界越大,认识的人越多,经历的越多,情绪越平和。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">想起美国对华为进行技术封锁的时候,很多网友都在网上支持华为,骂美国,骂高通、微软这些美国企业。<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">但作为旋涡中心的华为总裁任正非在采访中,回应被技术封锁时情绪非常平和,并表示跟美国的一些企业保持着良好的沟通,美国的合作企业也一直在跟政府做积极的努力。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">这种情绪上的对比,可以看出人与人之间知识水平、价值观、经验上面的巨大差距。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">所以如果你是一个无法控制情绪的人,想想自己身上的标签,是不是还在父母的庇护之下,能力低、经验少、习惯不好?</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">情绪的控制能力其实是一个人成长的核心素质。</strong></p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">情绪容易失控该如何改变?</strong></p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-top: 3px;margin-bottom: 3px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);background-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">01</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 88%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(175, 175, 175);margin-bottom: 0.25em;padding-left: 5px;padding-right: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">走出去,理解人性的智慧</p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: bottom; width: 0.5em; height: 0.5em; border-radius: 50%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">古人说“书中自有黄金屋,书中自有颜如玉。”但只靠书本上的知识积累是远远不够的。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">读万卷书不如行万里路,网络发达的现代社会,很多人大部分时间都沉迷在网络中,玩游戏、刷抖音,缺乏与人的沟通交流,人生的半径其实是缩小了。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">当你的世界越来越小时,特别容易沉迷在自己的小世界中。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">走出去包括行动上的走出去和思维的开拓</strong>,多去理解人性的智慧,当你看到的多了,了解的多了,思考的多了,才能有深刻的体会。</p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-top: 3px;margin-bottom: 3px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);background-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">02</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 88%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(175, 175, 175);margin-bottom: 0.25em;padding-left: 5px;padding-right: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">坐下来,反省自己<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: bottom; width: 0.5em; height: 0.5em; border-radius: 50%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">很多人缺乏自省的能力,不能经常反省自己,就没办法及时纠正自己的认知、行为模式,容易在错误的路上越走越远。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">所以在面对一些事情的时候会出现担心、害怕、忧虑的负面情绪。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">只有经常反省,才能在过往的经历中积累经验,不断提高自己的能力。</p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-top: 3px;margin-bottom: 3px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);background-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">03</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 88%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(175, 175, 175);margin-bottom: 0.25em;padding-left: 5px;padding-right: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">动起来,行为过程积累</p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: bottom; width: 0.5em; height: 0.5em; border-radius: 50%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">无论想的再多,不行动,都是空想。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">只有在行动的过程中,不断发现问题,解决问题,才能获取、建立完整全面的信息,才能更好的理解、吸收和消化,真正的成为自己的一部分。</p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-top: 3px;margin-bottom: 3px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);background-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">04</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 88%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(175, 175, 175);margin-bottom: 0.25em;padding-left: 5px;padding-right: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">多学习,建立大的世界观<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: bottom; width: 0.5em; height: 0.5em; border-radius: 50%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">世界观是需要不断的学习知识才能扩展的,不一定都要自己经历,有时候看到别人的经历,也可以引以为戒,能够避免很多的伤害。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">比如最近“复旦大学学霸嫖娼被开除”的事件,很多人可能认为嫖娼不是一件多大的事情,但是当他看到这件事情的严重后果时,可能会有所思考和感悟,对于避免自己犯错是有好处的。</p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-top: 3px;margin-bottom: 3px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);background-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">05</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 88%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(175, 175, 175);margin-bottom: 0.25em;padding-left: 5px;padding-right: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">严以律己,建立良好的习惯<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: bottom; width: 0.5em; height: 0.5em; border-radius: 50%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">对于自己没有克制能力的人,特别容易在遇到问题的时候找借口,这对于个人成长是有百害而无一利的。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">严格要求自己,建立良好的习惯,才能不断的进步,成为更好的人。</p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-top: 3px;margin-bottom: 3px;text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);background-color: rgb(60, 133, 179);width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">06</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;width: 88%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style=" margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(175, 175, 175);margin-bottom: 0.25em;padding-left: 5px;padding-right: 5px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">多挑战,提高自己的生物耐受值</p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: bottom; width: 0.5em; height: 0.5em; border-radius: 50%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">生活中多去挑战困难,给自己设立更高的目标,才能不断的刷新自己,提高自己的耐受值,得到成长才能真的改变。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">比如当过兵的人相对来说更加坚强、勇敢,这不是天生的,而是因为军旅生涯中高强度、高压力的训练,让人的耐受值变强,所以变得更加刚毅。</p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">以上几点对于控制情绪来说不是马上就能看到效果的方法,需要长时间的坚持和积累。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">当负面情绪已经产生时,为了避免出现不可控的后果,还可以通过以下几个方法来调整,:</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1、深呼吸</strong>。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">深呼吸能够帮助我们转换思维,转移注意力,并且能够调整心率,降低腺体产生的激素对身体的刺激。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2、闭眼。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">做深呼吸后,把眼睛闭上,能够让心情平静,减少急躁。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3、起身离开。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">离开所处环境,阻断外界的刺激,能够更快的回复平静。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4、闭嘴。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">当感到负面情绪产生时,选择闭嘴,避免口不择言,形成双向刺激,造成不可挽回的局面。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5、微笑</strong>。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;">微笑是一种自我激励,能够释放善意。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6、呐喊。</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">呐喊是释放压力很好的方法,通过呐喊能够加速身体血液循环,加快腺体产生的激素的代谢,走出负面情绪。</p></section><section style="padding-right: 10px;padding-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">稳定的情绪有利于个人的发展和成长,在生活、工作、感情中,都有积极的作用。</strong></p></section><section style=" text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; " powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="margin: 8px 0%; transform: translate3d(0px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;max-width: 60% !important;"><section style="text-align: right;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section></section></section></section></section><br>转载声明:本文转载自「凡事都有解」,搜索「gz-evolution」即可关注,[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/eOM6BzeXDkneWvGS919nRg">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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