为什么越乖的孩子,长大后心理问题越多?
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91525" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 8px;padding: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;display: -webkit-flex;line-height: 25.6px;border-top-left-radius: 10px;border-top-right-radius: 10px;border-bottom-right-radius: 10px;border-bottom-left-radius: 10px;height: auto;box-shadow: rgb(221, 221, 221) 2px 2px 8px;"><section style="max-width: 100%;flex: 0 0 2cm;height: 78px;width: 75px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word 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border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在很多孩子的成长过程中,家长们会有意无意的用“乖”来衡量一个孩子的好坏。在学校“孩子平时听话吗?”是家长最关心的问题之一。 </span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在家里也总会对孩子说“你要听话,听话就会怎样怎样,不听话就会....”家长们互相碰面,聊起孩子,也会互相夸奖“你家孩子真乖”等等。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><p><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p><br></p><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">小孩子心里知道:自己表现得“乖”,大人就会高兴,自己听大人的话、察看大人的脸色行事,大人就会喜欢自己,夸自己“懂事”。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为了得到大人们的喜爱和表扬,为了少受到处罚和责骂,孩子们渐渐学会了将自己真正的感受压抑到了一边,努力做出那个“乖”的模样让自己讨人喜欢。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多心理分析师、疗愈师都有这样的结论:<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">小时候表现越“乖”,越“懂事”的孩子,长大之后心理问题越多。</strong> 小时候表现的越叛逆、越自由的孩子,长大之后往往心智越成熟。</span></p></section></section></section><p><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-style: italic;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这是为什么呢?</span></span></span></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-style: italic;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么小时候越“乖”的孩子,</span></span></span></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-style: italic;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">长大以后反而心理问题越多?</span></span></span></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 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data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89029" style="max-width: 100%;border: 0px none;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="margin-top: -4px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 20px;color: rgb(62, 62, 63);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“<span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 32px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">乖</span>”意味着讨好大人</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">忽视真实的自己</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我很清楚地记得,我小的时候,奶奶带我出去玩。路过路边的糖果摊,奶奶指着说:“想要吗?”我摇摇头说,“不想要。”奶奶满意了,说:“这孩子最乖,从来不乱要东西。”</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">从心底来讲,小小的我,其实是想吃那色彩缤纷、酸甜可口的糖果的。只是,“懂事”和“乖”,是那个年代对小孩子的最高赞誉。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我从心里模模糊糊知道,我“乖”就会让大人高兴,于是,敏感的我把自己真正的感受压抑到了一边,努力做出那个“乖”的模样让自己讨人喜欢。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">长大以后,我成了一个不懂拒绝别人、疲惫不堪的“烂好人”。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">心理咨询师告诉我,很多小时候很乖的孩子,长大了心理问题较多,原因就是,他们以满足他人意愿、获得他人首肯为生活主导,失去表达自我的声音,忽略自己的真实需求,内心压抑十分痛苦。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我还是经常看到长辈对孩子说:</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“你再淘气我就不喜欢你了。”</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">或是“再这样做我就不爱你了。”孩子眨巴着眼睛,马上安静下来,以证明奶奶还爱着自己。每次看到我都心里一酸,仿佛看到幼年的自己。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为了博得看护人的喜爱,情愿压抑自己真实的天性,这种伪装起来的“乖”孩子,有什么用呢?</strong><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们所生活的时代已经不同了,这样的要挟,还不停在我们的教育生活中上演。</span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89029" style="max-width: 100%;border: 0px none;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="margin-top: -4px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 20px;color: rgb(62, 62, 63);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“乖”意味着</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不敢表达真实情绪</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 2em;text-align: left;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">曾经有一位妈妈留言:我的孩子平时很乖,入幼儿园时非常顺利,不哭不闹,但是一两周后却出现了爱打人、半夜哭醒的问题。为什么?<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p><br></p><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我直截了当的说:</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“与其说你的孩子听话乖巧,不如说你的孩子没有安全感。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">正常情绪下的孩子,没人愿意去幼儿园。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为3岁的孩子还不明白为什么去幼儿园,以为去幼儿园就是见不到爸爸妈妈了。<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果孩子不哭不闹,说明她觉得要做一个你们父母眼中的“乖”孩子,就不能哭闹。她知道不哭闹才会让你们更喜欢她。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">换句话说,她在压抑自己真实的内心想法。可是,孩子的感受只能通过其他的方式宣泄出来。她上幼儿园以后爱打人、半夜哭醒,都是内心的宣泄。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子能够在你面前哭,说明他对你有足够的安全感,知道你会对他的情绪照单全收,全盘接纳。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这种无条件的爱和养育,才是孩子健康人格形成的基础。</strong></span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89029" style="max-width: 100%;border: 0px none;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="margin-top: -4px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 20px;color: rgb(62, 62, 63);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">越“乖”的孩子</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">独立能力越差</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 2em;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么小时候“乖”的孩子可能学业出色,然而在人生取得更大成就的却是那些小时候调皮捣蛋的孩子?因为,越“乖”的孩子依附性越强,自主性越差。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“乖”孩子身上有家长太多的控制感。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母期望我们走在一条可以复制黏贴的道路,过着一个大家都认同的理想生活,这就是“乖孩子”。<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">越乖的孩子,随着他渐渐长大,他就会从一个不提问的“乖”学生、成为一个唯唯诺诺的“乖”员工、感情上让婆婆包办的“妈宝男”、生活上不能完全自主的烂好人。从这个角度讲,取得很高成就的人,都不“乖”。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我的孩子也是个很调皮的孩子,上蹿下跳上房揭瓦,但我会合理表达我的不满,从不以“再这样就不喜欢你了!”为要挟条件。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为我们并不因为孩子“乖”才爱他。我们爱的是那个原原本本的他。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">同理,我愿他做出人生选择是因为自己的真实喜好,而不是牺牲自己的感受去讨好别人。</strong><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我会支持孩子的决定并提醒他为自己的决定负责,而不是“你就做一个乖孩子,按照我给你指点的人生活下去。” </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="89029" style="max-width: 100%;border: 0px none;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="margin-top: -4px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 20px;color: rgb(62, 62, 63);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“乖”不是个褒义词</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.6;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在这个急速变化的时代,“乖”真不是个褒义词。</span></strong><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p></section></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最本质的一点:这个时代是“后喻时代”:时代更新太快,很多事情,是前辈要不断向后辈学习,而不仅仅只是单纯的听父辈的话。只可惜,能认清自己视野局限的父辈并不多,大多数还认为下一代应该“乖”一点,走一条稳稳妥妥的路——越稳妥的职业,越以牺牲创新能力为代价。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这个年代都是人往高出走,哪有铁饭碗?待别人都功成名就的时候,那些听父辈指路的“乖”孩子,才发现在而立之年需要重新改变职业航向,再一次痛苦地适应社会。</span></p></section><section style="padding-right: 1em;padding-left: 1em;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">中国父母的“乖”,意味着用前人井底观天的人生经验,去指路后一代不可测、未可知的人生。培养孩子的目标有千千万,最坏的可能就是那个“乖”小孩!</strong></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">接受了自己的成长教训的我,终于让孩子做了一个想哭就哭、想笑就笑、健康自由的孩子。这天吃过晚饭,他拿着一个堆砌得很奇怪的小车来给我看,本是车窗却堆到了尾巴上,车头却倒装在车身,姥姥一看就皱起了眉头,“车哪有长这样的。来,姥姥帮你按画册上的砌好。”他才不肯听话,继续往车身上堆砌大人无法理解的功能零件。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我笑了。这车堆叠得算不上巧,他也绝对不乖,可这辆看起来丑陋的小车,在这个创新以指数级变化的时代,一定能通往我们这一代人无法理解的未来。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><font color="#7b0c00"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><b>来源:母亲大学</b></span></font></p></section></section></section>
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