为什么孩子更愿意听老师的话，却不听家长的话？
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><section style="display: none;" data-tools="新媒体管家" data-label="powered by xmt.cn" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><br></section><section style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><section style="display: none;" data-tools="新媒体管家" data-label="powered by xmt.cn"><br></section></section><section style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 25.6px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">许多家长都发现，孩子上了幼儿园小学之后，常常不听自己的话，可却格外听老师的话。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">就像一个妈妈曾说：</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="color: #888888;font-size: 15px;">“平时我让孩子做什么，他不是磨磨唧唧、拖拖拉拉就是要跟你讲条件，一点也不配合。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="color: #888888;font-size: 15px;">老师的话就像圣旨，比什么都管用，他都不用我们提醒，自觉地就照老师说的做。”</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">为什么会这样呢？</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">其实，这里有4点值得反思，可以帮助家长更好地教育孩子。</span></section></section><p style="white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 15px;"><br></p><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;color: rgb(65, 60, 60);line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="92124" style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);letter-spacing: 0.54px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="border-width: 0px;"><section style="width: 677px;text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><section style="background-position: center center;width: 80px;height: 30px;display: inline-block;background-image: url('https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202105/19/7374843267780e77a217c06ae80ff65d.png');background-repeat: no-repeat;background-size: 100%;background-color: rgb(153, 189, 232);"><section data-width="100%" style="width: 80px;line-height: 30px;letter-spacing: 0.54px;"><p style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-size: 20px;">01</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 5px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="text-align: justify;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong>学校环境中有明确的规则</strong></span></section></section><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">首先，孩子更愿意听老师的话，因为学校环境中有清晰明确的规则。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">规则，就是行为的界限。什么事能做，什么事不能做，有了规则，孩子心中也会有一杆秤。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;"></span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">正如杜布森博士著作《勇于管教》中说：</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="color: #888888;font-size: 15px;">“如果悬崖边上设有栏杆，那么人就敢靠着栏杆往下看，因为不会害怕摔下去；如果没有栏杆，大家在离悬崖很远的地方就停住了，更别说站在悬崖边缘往下看了。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="color: #888888;font-size: 15px;">栏杆就是界限，知道界限（规矩）的孩子会有安全感，相反，没有界限的孩子没有安全感，因为他不知道安全的尺度在哪里。”</span></section></section><section style="text-align: center;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span></span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">而许多家庭中呢？可能很难说出几条明确的规则出来。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">孩子的行为没有一个具体的参照标准，就不容易形成好的行为规范。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">家长说教再多，也抵不上明确具象的规则来得有效、省事。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;"></span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">这就启发我们，“家有家规”是很有必要的。家长应该和孩子商量着制定一些行为准则，写在纸上贴在家中显眼的地方。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如9点前必须上床睡觉、玩完玩具必须自己收好放回原来的地方、电视只有周六周日可以看30分钟，等等。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">幼儿园、小学阶段，正是孩子习惯养成的关键期。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">这一阶段要求严格一点，孩子养成好习惯，后面也就可以逐渐放手，不需要规则的约束，孩子也会自觉调整行为。</span></section></section><p style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 15px;"><br></p><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;color: rgb(65, 60, 60);line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="92124" style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);letter-spacing: 0.54px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="border-width: 0px;"><section style="width: 677px;text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><section style="background-position: center center;width: 80px;height: 30px;display: inline-block;background-image: url('https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202105/19/7374843267780e77a217c06ae80ff65d.png');background-repeat: no-repeat;background-size: 100%;background-color: rgb(153, 189, 232);"><section data-width="100%" style="width: 80px;line-height: 30px;letter-spacing: 0.54px;"><p style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-size: 20px;">02</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 5px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="text-align: justify;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong>老师能够坚持原则、奖惩分明</strong></span></section></section><section style="min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 5px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">有了规矩，还得有原则地执行才能真正起到作用。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在学校中，老师对于规则会严格执行，不会随意妥协更改。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如学生打架生事，上课偷看课外书等，就会给予相应的惩罚或批评；</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">谁上课积极回答问题、帮助同学、作业写得全对，就会给予表扬或是小红花的鼓励。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">老师有原则，奖惩分明，看得到学生的问题，也懂得欣赏学生的优点</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">，因此能够在学生心中能够树立起威信，学生自然愿意听从老师的话。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">而反观一些家长，时常没有底线，不能坚持原则，常常因孩子哭闹或撒娇就妥协。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如说好了只能看30分钟电视，孩子哭着还要看，家长心一软，就让孩子继续看。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">这样一来，<strong>规则就失去了效力，家长说出的话在孩子心中也会失去分量，</strong>于是便会发现孩子越来越不听自己的话。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">还有的家长，对孩子缺少肯定和鼓励，只会抓住孩子的缺点，看不到他的优点，孩子被认同、被欣赏的心理需求得不到满足，也会影响他的表现。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">从这个方面，我们可以领悟到：</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">家长对于原则性问题一定要守住自己的底线，不要让孩子觉得规则是可以被打破的；</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">奖惩分明，做的不好需要让孩子接受惩罚，做得好的地方也要及时肯定、鼓励孩子。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">孩子自尊心、自信心发展得好，内心会渴望自己变得更好，于是自觉地朝积极的方向发展。</span></section></section><p style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 15px;"><br></p><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;color: rgb(65, 60, 60);line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="92124" style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);letter-spacing: 0.54px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="border-width: 0px;"><section style="width: 677px;text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><section style="background-position: center center;width: 80px;height: 30px;display: inline-block;background-image: url('https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202105/19/7374843267780e77a217c06ae80ff65d.png');background-repeat: no-repeat;background-size: 100%;background-color: rgb(153, 189, 232);"><section data-width="100%" style="width: 80px;line-height: 30px;letter-spacing: 0.54px;"><p style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-size: 20px;">03</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 5px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="text-align: justify;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong>老师情绪更稳定，具备更好的沟通能力</strong></span></section></section><section style="min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><p style="min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 5px;"><br></p><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">很多情况下，越是对待亲近的人，我们的言行越是容易失了分寸。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">老师对待学生，是平等尊重的态度，当学生出现一些问题行为，也能较好地控制自己的情绪。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;"></span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如一个学生犯了错误，老师不会不分青红皂白地指责，首先会耐心、心平气和地和孩子聊聊，弄清楚事情的来龙去脉，以免会错怪或误会了学生。</span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在这种情况下，孩子感受到的是一种可交流沟通的平等氛围，更愿意说出自己的心声，也更能听进老师的话。</span></section></section><section style="text-align: center;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span></span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">然而在家庭中，家长常常因为对孩子的过度关心、焦虑，管理不好自己的情绪。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">一旦发现孩子的什么问题，总是容易“上头”，首先发一通脾气，大吼大叫。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">这阵势，孩子的注意力都被吸引到家长的情绪上了，反而不利于孩子从根本上认识到问题所在。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">家长总是情绪化，也不利于亲子之间的有效沟通，容易激起孩子的叛逆心理，损伤亲子关系。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">亲子关系不好了，家长的教育就会大打折扣。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;"></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">这就告诫我们，作为孩子最亲近的父母，不管孩子再小，也要把他当做平等独立的个体看待，不随意斥责、打骂，控制好自己的情绪；</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">不管遇到什么问题，首要一点是好好沟通，懂得倾听，关注孩子的感受和想法，弄清楚事情的本质，看到孩子行为背后的需求，这样才能更好地帮助孩子成长。</span></section><p style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 15px;"><br></p><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;color: rgb(65, 60, 60);line-height: 1.75;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="92124" style="color: rgb(102, 102, 102);letter-spacing: 0.54px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="border-width: 0px;"><section style="width: 677px;text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><section style="background-position: center center;width: 80px;height: 30px;display: inline-block;background-image: url('https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202105/19/7374843267780e77a217c06ae80ff65d.png');background-repeat: no-repeat;background-size: 100%;background-color: rgb(153, 189, 232);"><section data-width="100%" style="width: 80px;line-height: 30px;letter-spacing: 0.54px;"><p style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-size: 20px;">04</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 5px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;text-align: justify;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><strong>老师做好了榜样，言行一致</strong></span></section></section><p style="min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;margin-top: 5px;"><br></p><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: normal;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在学校，老师总能为学生树立一个正面积极的榜样，所以能够赢得学生的尊重和信服。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如有知识；说话做事得体；能够给孩子提供恰到好处的帮助；要求学生不迟到，老师每次都会按时甚至提前到班级······</span></section><section style="text-align: center;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span></span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">而在家庭中，有时候，孩子不愿意听家长的话，是因为家长的言行不一致，不能够以身作则。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如不按时作息；爱看剧玩手机，不看书学习；告诉孩子努力读书很重要，自己却热爱打麻将······</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">要求孩子的，自己却做不到，教育就会缺乏说服力。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;"></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">有句话说得好：想要孩子成为怎样的人，最好的方法是父母首先成为那样的人。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">育儿先育己。父母做好自己，为孩子树立一个值得效仿的榜样，不断学习，努力提升自己，才能赢得孩子的尊敬与信赖。</span></section></section><section style="text-align: left;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="text-align: left;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;"><br></section></section><p style="line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;"><br></p></section><section style="white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;line-height: normal;text-align: left;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 12px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">本文转载于钱志亮工作室（ID: qzlzgs)，作者｜钱志亮，北京师范大学教学名师。专注于特殊教育、家庭教育、幼儿教育领域。</span></section><section style="white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;line-height: normal;text-align: left;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 12px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Helvetica Neue, Helvetica, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">责任编辑 | 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