10个心理学技巧帮助孩子正确宣泄和表达情绪
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">现在的家长们，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">对孩子各种学习能力培养关注过多，却往往忽略了他们其他方面的培养，其实某种能力并不是时刻都有机会能得到发挥，但好的性格和品格，培养孩子人格的完整性却是处处有用的。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">今天这篇文章，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">告诉大家10个有用的心理学技巧，帮助孩子如何正确地发泄和表达情绪，关注积极情绪，发展自己的优势性格，在生活的风浪面前，愿他们都能从容面对。</span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">01</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">帮助孩子认识情绪</strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">管理情绪的第一步，就是能识别出自己的各种情绪。</span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们首先需要认识各种情绪，在陪伴孩子的过程中，可以随时指出孩子的各种情绪：激动、失望、自豪、孤独、期待等等，不断丰富孩子的情绪词汇库。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">现在很多家长都能有意地去跟孩子共情。其实，共情的一个功能就是帮助孩子认识到自己当时的具体感觉。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">需要提醒的是，有时当孩子很生气时，他会对这种情绪识别也很反感，完全不听。我们可以先让他自己冷静下来，等孩子平静后，再回过头来跟他聊聊刚才的感受。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子能识别出的情绪越多，他就越是能清晰地表达出来，而准确地表达自己的情绪，这就是处理情绪的开端。能表达，他才能沟通，才能想办法。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有时，只需表达出来，情绪问题就解决了。</span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">02</span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">跟孩子一起品味美好事物</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们要跟孩子一起多多地去关注生活中的美好事物，给自己增加积极的元素。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">品味美好，有很多方法。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如，</span><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">随时给孩子指出值得品味的各种细节。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">每天放学时，我们常常看夕阳的颜色。有时是粉红的，她就说是草莓味的；有时是金黄色的，她就说是橙子味的。这两天刚下过雪，我和女儿回来时，路上都是冰，很滑，一路走得很艰辛。她倒是很乐观，说灌木丛上都是棉花糖。我们又一起感受脚下的碎冰。我们想象一个冰雪王国，想象自己住在里面。她发现薄冰下面有气泡，就去踩踩，气泡就动一动。我又抱她摸树上的冰挂……我希望她忽略路不好走的事，把这些点滴的美好存到心里。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">生活中的点滴很容易被忽视略过，我们指给孩子看，就是在延长这些瞬间、扩大这些细节。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">品味美好的另一个方法是，</span><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">存储记忆，延长美好</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">。就是说，给好事拍照、录像、写日记记录、存档，经常跟孩子一起看，回顾这些美好的瞬间。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">另外，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong>要提高品味的质量</strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">，就要培养孩子全神贯注、心无旁骛地做事情的习惯。现在的生活节奏快，小孩耳濡目染，都能跟大人学会做事情时合并几件事，这样似乎提高了效率，但实际上养成了分心的习惯。专心地吃饭、打电话、走路，我们都可以从中感受到更多。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">品味美好的另一个重要方法就是分享。</span></strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们都知道，不能强迫孩子去分享。鼓励孩子主动分享，他才能感受到其中的乐趣。小孩之所以有时不愿意分享，是因为他对所有权还缺乏安全感，逻辑思维能力也有限，对环境感到不可控、难以预期。这些大人都要理解。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">其实很小的孩子也可以有主动分享的行为。我女儿和幼儿园的小朋友们经常互相分享吃的。在家里，吃水果她都能先给大人分一圈，有什么好东西她也主动拿给大家看看，虽然有时很有保留的样子——只给你看一秒就收回去了，或是只许看不许摸。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">分享好东西，把美好加倍，我觉得这是存在于人的天性中的。孟子教育齐宣王：“独乐乐，与人乐乐，孰乐？”齐宣王都承认，跟人共同欣赏音乐更好，而且人越多越好。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">03</span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">随时肯定正向的性格和品格</strong></span></strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们平时总是习惯着眼于孩子的所谓缺点和错误，以及能力上的种种不足，其实，如果我们能多去发现孩子优秀品格的表现，一旦能及时肯定孩子的优点，这样久了，他们就会更多地朝这些方向去发展。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">现在的家长们对学习能力上、成绩上往往关注过多，但其实我们可以这样想，孩子长大后，哪样能力有机会得到发挥，这很难说，但好的性格和品格却是处处有用的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">能力有可能被埋没被荒废，但性格和品格却永远不会。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">04</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对成长感的识别和强调</strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们成年人都会在发现自己有所成长时感到欣喜，对于孩子来说，成长就更是他们的全部，所以更加重要。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">每当孩子有进步时，我们及时指出来，让他看到，告诉他，你记得不，你去年、</span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">上个月还是什么样呢，现在都可以做到这样了~~</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">进步、提高、成长，这是最能体现孩子自身价值的。随时抓住时机，发现具体的进步，告诉孩子，今天的你比昨天的你更优秀。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">05</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">培养兴趣爱好</strong><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">提供投入做事的机会</strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对兴趣爱好的培养，怎么强调都不过分。心理学研究发现，</span><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">一个有着成熟的兴趣爱好的人，他们对新事情更感兴趣，学习能力更强。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">因为他们的学习更是出于内在动机，他们有更顽强的意志力和激情。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我觉得，兴趣爱好的作用，除了益智、陶冶情操、休闲等等，它还可以像一个心灵上的朋友一样，让人在欢乐时去跟它分享、忧伤时跟它倾诉。另外，它或许还能给人提供一个新的身份，让你有更丰富的人生体验。比如，你是一位教师，但走出教室，你或许告诉别人你是一个烘焙高手。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">但是最重要的还不是这些。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">兴趣爱好能给我们提供一个让我们能全身心投入去做事情的机会，这种投入的感觉非常宝贵。</span></strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有心理学家把这叫“酣畅感”，据说这是一个快乐的重要来源。当你做你爱好的事情时，你全神贯注，忘记了时间忘记了自己的存在。庄子几次描述过这样的情形。按照他的说法，这时你与“道”相连通，所以会有鬼斧神工的发挥。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而达到这种酣畅感的秘诀是，你的技术和挑战达成一种微妙的平衡。就是说，你做的事情的难度刚好跟你的水平相当。当然这个事最好是你喜欢做的。不过话说回来，很多时候，即使中性的事情，比如写作业，如果能力和难度程度相当，我们都会享受这个过程。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">所以我们回过头来想想，应该选择哪些事情给孩子去做。我们出于爱心，总想给孩子更多的享受。但是，让他被动地享受，比如看电视、吃东西，他的乐趣也有，只是这些乐趣肤浅、短暂。而稍有点挑战的事，他反倒更能投入。难度如果过大，他就又没了兴趣。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">其实小孩在玩游戏时，常常就能体验到这种酣畅感。我女儿玩时，如果我问她吃不吃苹果之类的话，通常她完全听不进去。所以孩子投入地、自由地玩，这非常有价值，我们要多鼓励，少打扰。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子大一些之后，做事往往就参杂了很多功利心，有了压力，难以全心投入。现在很多的兴趣班更是把兴趣变得没趣了。我们家长要多反思自己在其中的作用。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">06</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">给孩子“心理玩具”</strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">心理学家在做提升幸福感的干预实验时，有一些看似很普通、有点幼稚的做法，比如，记录下来当天发生的好事，并解释为什么你感觉不错；写下能展现你好的一面的事情，每天去温习。据调查，每天写下三件让你感觉好的事，这个做法效果很好，效果的持续时间也长。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们自己也可以这样做，也可以引导孩子这样做。我们可以在情绪有些低落时，把这些好事当作心理玩具，拿出来玩味。我们也可以每天睡觉前或在其他空闲时间里，没事就在脑子里整理自己的这些好事。大家可以试试。其实这就</span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">是在训练我们转念的能力。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们可以抽空跟孩子一起想好事。我们可以给孩子准备一个漂亮的本，专门记录他的好事。或者给他准备一个小白板、做个展示墙，随时记录。或者给孩子准备一个好事宝盒，把能引起美好回忆的东西或照片，都存在里面，有空就倒出来看看……</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">记录好事、练习转念这些心理玩具，使用熟练后还可以训练自己有看到全局、看到宏观一面的</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">能力。比如，当你为孩子的一点小事生气时，你可以跳出来想：总的来说，他是个好孩子，我是个好妈妈，我工作还不错，生活各方面都基本满意……然后再看刚才的事，就能比较冷静地看待了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家长自己的态度对孩子的影响真是很大的。有时我感觉女儿会有点抱怨，我趁她还没说呢，就自己开始感慨好的一面，表示很知足，她的想法也被带过来了。其实我觉得更多的时候，小孩倒是比大人更乐观，更少消极的评判。有时大人会以自己的想法去揣度，孩子本来还没有任何不满情绪呢，听大人这么一说，马上就消极了。所以家长言行要慎重，别急于评价下结论，多等等，多观察。<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们自己评论的话里多一些感恩、同理心、宽容和乐观思维，这就是好的教育了。</span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我经常会在睡前跟孩子一起回顾这一天的事情，其中除了总结她的进步，再就是想想有哪些好事，哪些我们要感到知足、感恩的事，然后展望美梦，再开开玩笑。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对于大一些、上学的孩子，我们可以让他偶尔写感恩日记、写好事日记(让自己开心、自豪骄傲的事)。不必天天写，那样他会反感，不好坚持，可以一周写一两篇。或者让他自己每天睡前回顾这一天值得感谢的事、让自己自豪骄傲的事。我想，做这些远比批评他的缺点更重要。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">07</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不做情绪绑架</strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我看到有的专家告诉家长，跟孩子说：“你那样做，妈妈很生气”、“那样做，妈妈不喜欢”。我想家长应该尽量少这样去说。我们大人正常的情绪反应，可以让孩子知道，不必刻意掩饰。我们可以生气。但是如果总是用家长的情绪去管教孩子，这不是好办法。总这样说，孩子会觉得他应该对大人的情绪负责。他会忘记遵守规则的本来的意义，也容易有很多不必要的自责和内疚。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">正确的方法是，</span><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">让孩子看到他的不好的行为会有怎样的不好的结果，让他对自己的行为负责，而不是对家长的情绪负责。</span></strong></span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有时候女儿哭闹之后，等她情绪好了，我也偶尔跟她说，你知不知道，你哭闹的时候，我真的很烦。不过关键的是，你这一哭，耽误了自己的时间，你早点过来吃饭，吃饱了就高兴了，就可以多玩一会了，是不是……</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">教给孩子，对自己的行为和情绪负责。而我们家长也是，也要对自己的情绪负责。如果我们因为跟孩子无关的事情有消极情绪，那就跟孩子说，妈妈这会心情不好，因为别的事情，所以妈妈先自己待一会，等情绪好了，马上就跟你玩。这样，孩子也可以学会，当他有不好的情绪时，他也会自己冷静一会，练习自己去处理。他也会知道，有不好的情绪不是什么错事。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">08</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">接受孩子的消极情绪</strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">前面谈的多是关于积极心理的建设，下面谈最让我们头疼的消极情绪的处理。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对于孩子的消极情绪，我们不要去否认、压制、贬低、怀疑，不要说“这有什么可怕的”、“你不应该感到失望”、“你没有理由生气”等等，而是要帮助孩子去接受、识别，然后再教给处理办法。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">教给孩子管理消极情绪的前提是，我们自己要能从容去对待。</span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们会发现，做到这一点真是有难度啊。为什么这么难呢？因为，当孩子发脾气或有其他消极情绪时，我们的本能反应是——又来麻烦了！你敢跟我对抗！我的教育怎么这么失败！你得长到多</span></span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">大才能会啊</span><span style="font-size: 16px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">……!我付出这么多，你怎么能这么对待我……于是我们浑身冒汗血脉喷张……</span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们处于这样的状态，当然就不能指望孩子能平和下来了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">要改变这种反应，</span><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">首先要认识到，消极情绪对孩子是有益的，是他认识自己、提高情商、学习成长的一个好机会。</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">它是中性的，不是坏事。把它当作一阵风吧，控制好，甚至利用它去发电、放风筝。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">其次，要尽量把孩子的行为和情绪跟自己的分开。</span></strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">自己的劳累、抱怨、委屈，自己去解决，别做不合理的挂钩。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我女儿惹我生气时，我就这样开导自己：一方面是因为她就是个孩子，就这样；另一方面，反思自己管教上有哪些不足，还可以做哪些改进，她是我教育的结果，跟谁抱怨呢，自己多提高就是了。我想，如果家长少一些受害者的思路，多想该怎样提高，这也会帮助我们控制情绪，少生气。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">然后再告诉自己，我当然可以不完美，做不到的，努力提高就是了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">只有当我们自己接受了孩子的消极情绪，我们才能做到不去否认、压制、贬低、怀疑他的情绪，并且教给孩子去接受他的情绪。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">09</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">给孩子自己处理消极情绪的机会</strong><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子发脾气，我们本能地想救火。如果认识到消极情绪的意义，我们就知道，</span></span><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不必急于让情绪消失，而是要尽量给孩子机会，让他感受、识别，同时自己锻炼着平复下来。他每自己平复一次，他的情绪控制能力就得到了一次锻炼。当然对于两岁以下的孩子，家长还是应该用转移法先去哄好，然后再讲道理。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，现在我对孩子哭闹的方法是：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">在发现她有点情绪，可能会发作时，如果她不需要我的帮助，我常常找个借口躲开。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我发现通常我一走开，她自己很快就没事了。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">当她真的发作起来时，再回来。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有时啥也不说，摸摸头给她擦眼泪。如果我自己也生气，或者她拒绝我接近，那就捧本书待在旁边。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果是她特别不讲理的事情，我就义正言辞地说几句。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这种慷慨陈词也有用，能帮她看清自己行为的后果，看到引起的反应，当她自觉理亏时，理智就开始恢复，就战胜了情绪。</span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而在这个过程中，如果家长自己能保持中性态度，这会帮助孩子更好地平复情绪。有很多情况，孩子是被家长的坏情绪火上浇油，愈演愈烈。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(0, 122, 170);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">10</strong></span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;">教给他处理消极情绪的办法</strong></span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">宣泄法：比如打沙发打枕头(当然对于爱打人的小男孩慎用)、撕纸(其实这些宣泄法背后的道理就是，要以破坏性最小，不影响别人的方式发泄情绪)；</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">倾诉法：找人聊天、写日记、随意画画；</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">镇静法：数数、深呼吸；</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">转移法：看景色、听歌、运动、做自己的爱好。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">还有就是前面写过的那些能引起积极情绪的方法，比如想好事、品味美好等等。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">然后，当自己冷静一些之后，教给孩子去分析思考，想想刚才的情绪是怎么回事，是什么引起的，以后可以怎样做才能避免那种情况，下次再有类似的情况，该怎么办。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有一个有趣的现象，就是，对于消极情绪，要多分析多思考，去想办法，这样有利于化解情绪。但是对于积极情绪，则尽量少分析，多去感受，把它作为一个整体去感受。好事，有时分析太多，好的感觉反倒没了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">许多成年人，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">都不一定能准确的说出自己的情绪，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">不妨借此机会与孩子一同成长。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">这可能是个漫长的过程，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">也许有时</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">你也</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">需要一个专业的</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">人</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">帮助你一起识别自己的情绪，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">通过合理的宣泄与表达，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">你会发现原来生活可以如此</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">美好~~</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;line-height: 2em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 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