期中考试成绩出来后，请和孩子一起打败问题！
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><section style="display:none;" data-tools="新媒体管家" data-label="powered by xmt.cn" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><br></section><section style="display:none;" data-tools="新媒体管家" data-label="powered by xmt.cn"><br></section><pre class="js_message_plain" ng-bind-html="message.MMActualContent" style="margin-top: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;widows: 1;font-family: inherit;white-space: pre-wrap;"><section style="margin: 3px auto;padding: 12px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 24px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(151, 151, 151);"><p></p></section></pre><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 0.5em;margin-right: 0.4em;margin-left: 0.4em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 100%;width: 6px;height: 6px;background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-bottom: -2.4em;margin-left: 0.6em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;height: 3em;border-left: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 5em;border-top: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(148, 138, 84);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">请和孩子在一起打败问题，千万不要和问题在一起，打败孩子！</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 5em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 5em;border-top: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-top: -2.4em;margin-left: 4.4em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;height: 3em;border-left: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 0.4em;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 100%;width: 6px;height: 6px;background-color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 30px;padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">亲爱的各位家长：</strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">期中考试结束了，您、孩子和我其实都是很关注的。我们都特别想知道孩子的成绩，我们都特别企盼孩子能考个“好成绩”。我想大家对“好”的渴望是如此的强烈，以至于我们都往往会忘记“好”的背后是什么？一个班三四十个孩子，有考第一的，有考第二的，有考十二的，也有考三十二的。那是不是注定了“几家欢喜几家忧”呢？那是不是还没有开始，我们就知道结局了呢？</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们的关注点在哪里，孩子的关注点就会在哪里！当您看到孩子的考试成绩时，亲爱的家长，我发自内心的向您呼喊：</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.9em;margin-left: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;height: 1.4em;border-left: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 2.5em;border-top: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 0px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“请和孩子站在一起，打败问题；<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">请千万不要和问题站在一起，打败孩子！”</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 2.5em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 2.5em;border-top: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-top: -0.9em;margin-left: 2em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;height: 1.4em;border-left: 1px solid rgb(158, 158, 158);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 30px;padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">除了中考和高考这两次大考之外，我们孩子在整个学生生涯中要经历大大小小无数次的考试。您想过每次考试的功能吗？您想过怎样充分挖掘每次考试的教育价值吗？我想我是幸运的，我每天每年都和这么多可爱的孩子一起，经历我自己都数不清的考试，我也有机会去观察一些现象，进而思考一些问题，下面和大家分享交流一下。（不见得对，仅是个人想法，仅供大家参考）</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(148, 138, 84);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">注：以下现象仅是个别情况，切勿对号入座。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;display: inline-block;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span><section style="margin: 0.2em 0.5em -1.8em;padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;clear: none;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">家长</strong></p></section><span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 30px;padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">1.才考了这么点分？你怎么学的？你怎么这么笨？</strong></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（<span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(160, 160, 160);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">点评：孩子的感受：我很差，我不行，孩子的自信心会越来越低</span>）</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">2.你对的起我和你妈吗？我们天天起早贪黑的全是为了你！</strong></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（<span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(160, 160, 160);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">点评：孩子的感受：你在邀功，你照顾我心不甘情不愿的，我没让你为了我啊。全为了孩子，这个责任太大了，孩子承担不起。父母确实不易，教育孩子感恩是应该的，我会在周五、周六早上连续两天和孩子探讨这个话题，也为您期中考试后和孩子分析成绩做做铺垫。我想我来对孩子说你的父母不容易，你应该感恩，可能更合适一点。也请您让孩子早点到校不要迟到。您来对孩子说任课老师们不容易，你应该感恩，我想这样换位的感恩教育效果可能会更好一些。</span>）<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">3.你看人张三回回考第一，回回100分，我怎么这么倒霉生了你这么个孩子？你不嫌丢人我还嫌丢人呢？</strong></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(160, 160, 160);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（点评：我们拿别人的孩子和自己的孩子比较时，不是为了成就我们的面子，不是孩子考得好我就有面子，孩子考得不好我就没面子。我的面子，我负责，和孩子无关。）</span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">任何一场考试，我们要想尽办法把他的教育价值挖掘到最大，如果我们最后收获的只是一个分数，那要求就太低了。<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我想考试首要的功能用一个词来概括，那就是“诊断”，是对孩子之前学习过程的检验。我们看到孩子的试卷后，和孩子坐下来看看他的答题情况</span></strong>（注意一定先看孩子的答题情况）。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(227, 108, 10);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">让孩子说说：</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（1）哪些题是孩子答得非常好的？</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（2）孩子在平时的学习中哪些方面（上课听讲效率、作业完成效率、改错情况、落实计算、落实基础、时间的合理安排等等）做得好，才保证了这些题做的好？</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（3）哪些题是孩子觉得有问题的地方？问题出在哪里了？（平时那个学习环节出现问题了）</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（4）在接下来的学习中，你能找到几种方法解决这个问题？</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">（5）问问孩子，你需要爸爸妈妈帮你做什么？……然后，再和孩子一起看看孩子的成绩。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这样处理问题的过程本身就是在引导孩子关注学习过程，让孩子知道只有过程做好了，做到位了，才会有一个理想的结果。学习真的是水到渠成的事情。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 30px;padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">关于如何正确看待别的孩子成绩和自己孩子的成绩。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">每次考完试后，不管家长、孩子，还是老师都会关注别的孩子的成绩和自己孩子之间的差异，我也会关注别的班的成绩和我自己班成绩的差异。关注的目的是什么？</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的竞争不是为了个人面子，不是为了打败别人，而是为了成就自己。</span></strong>你有一个苹果，我有一个苹果，我们互相交换一下，还是各有一个苹果。但是你有一个方法，我有一个方法，我们交换一下，我们就各自有两个方法。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">关注别人和自己的差异，是为了更好的认清自己的不足，为了更好的向别人学习好的方法和经验。</span></strong>这个时候，我们要引导孩子去观察，去对比，去反思，别人怎么做的，我怎么做的。我有什么优势值得别人学习，别人身上又有哪些闪光点是值得我学习的。这样，才能成就我们自我的不断成长之路。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">考试除了考孩子对知识的掌握，考察孩子解决问题的能力外，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">还有一个很重要的意义就是对人心理素质的考验。</span></strong>知识只是载体，只是手段，永远不会是目的。那些能渗透到孩子血液里的东西，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子整个过程中的心理的历程才是我们最应该关注的。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">面对自己的成绩，他内心的感受是什么，而对别人的成绩，他内心的感受是什么？让他谈谈别人平时的行为是什么样的，自己的行为是什么样的？过程和结果之间有哪些联系？这样的过程，孩子的主动思维能力会不会增长，孩子的理性选择力会不会增长。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">考得好的孩子，让他知道是因为平时哪些方面做到位了，他就不会骄傲，这些方面他会继续保持。考的不好的孩子，你更要鼓励他，让他看到希望，让他找到解决问题的方法。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个人面对自己无力解决的问题时，他会焦虑，愤怒，抱怨，指责别人（每个人的潜意识里都不愿承认自己有问题），甚至会放弃，会破罐子破摔。但一旦我们帮助他找到方法，他就知道自己该怎么做了，他就有了战胜困难的勇气，他就会明白世界是自己的，与他人无关。你不管怨谁，最后自己的路还是要自己走。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最后，我想说：“<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">亲爱的，孩子没有好与不好，差与不差。</span></strong>”每个孩子都是一个独立的个体，都有各自的长处和不足。正如华语作家张德芬所说，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">每个人心里都有一匹好狼和一匹坏狼。最后，那匹狼能存活下来？这取决于你喂养了哪头狼，哪头狼就会活下来。</span></strong><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们所要做的就是抓住一切机会，给孩子的成长提供养分。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding-right: 30px;padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;font-size: 15px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">下面，是我希望大家配合我的事情。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我想在您和孩子谈成绩之前，先和孩子一起完成下面的亲子作业。（这可不是选作作业，是必做作业啊，要是您没有完成，家长会时，我可是要罚站的！）</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">作业一：</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">1、和孩子一起找个飘满落叶的林荫路一起走走，拣些漂亮的落叶，赏赏秋天的美景，看看蓝天，呼吸一下新鲜的空气，接受大自然的恩典，想想生活原来如此美好！聊聊孩子感兴趣的，能让孩子开心的话题，不谈学习。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">2、带着孩子去趟花店，买上一朵太阳花（也叫幸福花），顺便为您的另一伴送上美丽的鲜花，不必多，一朵，两朵，都是好的。告诉他（或她）你有多爱她（或他）。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">3、一家人找个只属于你们的时间和空间坐下来，拿出你捡的叶子，拿出你买的太阳花，共同动手摆出你们心目中最美丽、最有创意、最有浓浓爱意的曼陀罗花。（我会给大家看看之前孩子摆的作品）</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">4、把你们亲子活动的作品拍成照片，统一发到班级qq群相册里。（这个很重要啊！）</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在做完这个作业后，您再让孩子拿出试卷，和他一起谈谈关于这次考试。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">摆曼陀罗花的意图：家是讲情的地方，家是温馨的港湾，家是心灵的栖息地，家永远是孩子最大和唯一的依靠，我想只有您的亲子关系是和谐的，融洽的，美好的，您对孩子的引导才是有效的。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">成绩的问题是和各方面因素都有关的很复杂的问题，它不同于孩子触碰了底线，犯了一个严重的品质或是安全方面的大错，这时不需要家里的刀光剑影。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">每次大考之后的刀光剑影除了给孩子留下恐惧考试，增加过分压力的阴影，和发泄我们的怒火外，我没想出有什么其它的好处。如果，我们对孩子的成绩过于焦虑，那我想首要的问题是解决我们自己的焦虑，再来谈孩子的学习。<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(161, 67, 91);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们把精力放在引导，督促孩子的过程上，我们用淡定平和的心态坦然面对结果，无条件接纳您的孩子。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(0, 112, 192);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">作业二：</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在您和孩子谈完话后，我需要孩子们写一份非常认真的期中考试总结，统一A4纸不少于一页，要求态度端正，字迹工整。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最后，我还特别想说：</p><p style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;min-height: 1em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;font-variant-numeric: normal;font-variant-east-asian: normal;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: justify;white-space: normal;widows: 1;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.9em;margin-left: 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