新华社夜读 | 父母的差评，是孩子心底难以愈合的伤疤
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style="max-width: 558px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 558px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;max-width: 558px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 558px;background-image: -webkit-linear-gradient(-45deg, rgb(226, 233, 241), rgb(226, 233, 241));box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding: 10px;max-width: 558px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong>每个孩子都期待能变成更好的自己。</strong></strong></span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p>有一个女孩自从大学毕业就一直窝在家里，整整十年，都没有出去找过工作。节目组去采访她“啃老”的原因，在镜头前，她回忆起自己的童年：初中的时候，她很喜欢写写画画，还曾自己设计过运动鞋和服装，可父母看到后的第一反应是：“有啥用啊，看书去！”</p><p><br></p><p>在收到来自父母的一个又一个差评后，她变得越来越自卑，觉得自己什么都做不好。最严重的时候，甚至连话也说不出口，可家人却还是动不动就对她实施打击式教育。就这样，她最终没能挺过被打击的痛苦，只得在自我封闭的世界里，浑浑噩噩地生活。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">其实，每个孩子都期待能变成更好的自己。但父母的打击和贬低，却令他们偏离了原来的轨道，一点点陷入自我怀疑和自我否定的泥沼。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p>来自父母的否定和打击，是孩子一生挥之不去的阴影。即便长大成人，即便取得了不小的成就，但在父母面前，自卑和恐惧却总是如影随形，时不时就跳出来。</p><p><br></p><p>父母的差评，是孩子心底始终难以愈合的伤疤。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: left;caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;text-indent: 28px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">名家画廊 | </span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-indent: 28px;">野地美树子</span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="white-space: normal;">很多家长都喜欢拿自己的孩子跟别人做比较，殊不知，每一次比较都在摧毁孩子内心的自信。</p><p style="white-space: normal;"><br></p><p>有人曾做过一次调查，孩子最不喜欢家长说哪几句话。调查中近一半的孩子都做出了相同的选择——“你看看别人家的孩子。”</p><p><br></p><p>事实上，如果父母总是把自家孩子拿来与“别人家的孩子”做比较，就是在潜意识里放大孩子的不足，并告诉孩子：别人家孩子比你优秀，比你懂事，比你听话……实际上传达出来的，皆是对孩子的优点视而不见。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">不被认可的孩子久而久之会失去自信，而一个失去自信的孩子，像是花朵失去了养分，鸟儿被折断了翅膀。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p>这样的孩子，即便再优秀、再努力，最终也会因为心灵上的贫瘠，失去了飞跃高山的底气。</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, 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!important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p><br></p><p>看过这样一句话：“每个孩子都有成为优秀人的潜质，只是因为父母日常不同的教育，赋予了孩子不一样的人生。”</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">一个孩子自卑还是自信，都是源自于父母的教育。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p>如果父母不一味要求孩子懂事，而是更关心他快不快乐，那么孩子就会在爱的氛围里，拥有一份底气；</p><p><br></p><p>如果父母懂得肯定、鼓励孩子，那么孩子就会逐渐发现自己的闪光点并且自信、阳光；</p><p><br></p><p>如果父母愿意真诚地欣赏孩子，不拿孩子跟别人做比较，那么孩子就可以拥有一颗强大、丰盈的心去面对生活中的风雨。</p><p><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: 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