心理的多数痛苦，来自家庭位置的角色错位
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-size-adjust: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">著名心理学家温尼科特，在英国广播电台育儿讲座中曾说过：</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“你或许有自己一套标准，也很珍惜自己做主的生活方式，所以我真为你感到遗憾，因为你一旦变成一个妈妈，从此就要适应孩子，而不是相反”。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这话不论从生物进化角度还是人文心理学角度理解都是正确的，这牵扯到“<span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">关系里的位置</strong></span>”，特别是家庭三角关系。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 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!important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">几乎所有问题都来自家庭的“三个角”位置紊乱了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">看似简单的三个支点：<span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">爸爸、妈妈、孩子，却能变化出无数形状，十分复杂。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="padding: 1em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">根据精神分析，3-6岁是儿童的“俄狄浦斯期”，也被称为性蕾期，是性的萌芽期。孩子开始有性别意识，并且对父母关系、两性之间的问题比较敏感。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在这个阶段，孩子会更倾向于和异性父母亲密，对同性父母出现排斥心理。但</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">俄狄浦斯期不是简单的“恋母”或“恋父”，而是孩子从对母亲的依恋，到相对分离过程中的一系列心理变化。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">俄狄浦斯阶段（Oedipus stage ）是心理发展过程“两人阶段”（pre- Oedipus Stage） 的下一个阶段，三人阶段。 </span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">俄狄浦斯情节是一种重要的内心关系的现象：</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">三角关系</strong></span></span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">。</span></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">个人经验里关于好---坏、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">爱---恨、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">欲望---诱惑、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">安全---迫害、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">攻击---报复、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">胜利---内疚、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">亲密与分离的主题、</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">或相似与差异的主题，</span></section></li></ul><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">都会被投射到三人关系中的父、母和小孩的关系里。</span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这是孩子性别认同的关键时期，也是心理发展的重要时期，对孩子以后亲密关系的形成有巨大影响。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最为常见的就是一个角缺位（往往是父亲），另外两个角无限靠近（母亲和孩子），最终导致孩子承担了父亲部分角色，甚至承担了父母双重角色。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">此时，孩子成了半个父母，父母或父母一方退行成了“巨婴”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如（特指以下方式已成为生活常态）：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="padding-left: 30px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">过度在意孩子学习成绩，成绩好坏是家庭晴雨表，也是妈妈快乐和痛苦的源泉。这会让孩子用成绩来喂养妈妈。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">过于在意孩子吃饭穿衣，特别是爷爷奶奶，不停地给孩子夹饭并要全部吃下，脸上堆着满足的笑，就像看着当年饿了的自己。这会让孩子用“假装好吃”“假装能吃”来喂养爷爷奶奶。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">给孩子报各种补习班、兴趣班，根本停不下来，见不得孩子有一点属于自己的时间，陪孩子一起连轴转，天天喊累却忙得不亦乐乎，好像只有这样才不会“输在起点”，才不会被看不起。这会让孩子用“不得不刻苦努力”来喂养父母。</span></section></li></ul><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我有些来访早年就是这样的小大人：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="padding: 1em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 1px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有的还不如灶台高，就变着花样给爸妈做饭，只为他们能在家多陪陪自己。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有的肩负父亲“光宗耀祖”的家族使命，从小被迫“两耳不闻窗外事，一心只读圣贤书”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有的想尽办法逗妈妈开心，至今也不明白，妈妈为何一天到晚哭丧着脸。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有的主动辍学，只为帮比自己小不了几岁的弟弟，因为实在受不了父母为了钱唉声叹气、怨声载道。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有的则不停“生病”“逃课”，因为只有这样，爸爸妈妈为了“照顾”自己才不会吵架、不会离婚。</span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这一切都在说明：<span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子成了父母的照料者，父母成了孩子的索取者。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box 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break-word !important;">父母是如何退行成“巨婴”，继而让孩子来喂养的呢？</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母角色的缺失，往往会让孩子变成父母来弥补这个缺失。这在本质上是为了拯救家庭关系。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">缺失有两种，</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一是真的失去，父母去世、失踪等，</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一是父母人还在，但孩子已感受不到他们的存在。</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">常见的是爸爸缺失，妈妈和孩子过于亲密。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可能爸爸长期出差，不管不问，不仅不管孩子，连老婆都不管，只顾忙自己的事业或者别的什么。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈很多情绪不能指望伴侣，很可能靠孩子来缓解。 </span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我曾有位男性来访快50岁了至今未婚，依然和75岁的妈妈住在一起。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很久之前，妈妈非常焦虑，到处给儿子介绍对象，可每次最长不超过半年妈妈就会生病，或对儿子女朋友各种不满。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有一次，都快订婚了，妈妈突然摔倒在楼梯间，小腿骨折住了3个月医院，儿子不得不陪在妈妈身边，最终和女友也分手了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">随着年龄越来越大越发碰不到合适的，最终也不想结婚了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他的父母感情很差，从他记事开始父母就吵，经常大打出手，每次吵完妈妈就抱他去别的地方住，最多住一年，不让爸爸见他。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">并各种暗示，只有妈妈才是世上最爱他的人。20多年前父母离婚，来访从此再也没见过父亲，母子二人相依为命直到今天。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这是非常典型的妈妈把儿子当“半个老公”来养，尽管意识上知道不该这样。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">儿子也心甘情愿“补位”（这会获得更多的爱），</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: 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PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">除了缺失，父母还通过以下3种方式让孩子变成“小大人”：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 威胁与恐吓</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">给孩子传递信息：“如果你表现不好，就会有糟糕的后果”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你不好好学习我就不理你；你不听话我和你爸就离婚；</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你不求上进我就会生病；</span></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你不考名牌大学我们家族希望就破灭。</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">威胁与恐吓会通过苛刻、挑剔甚至非打即骂来表达，也可能通过自己很可怜来表达。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这是通过激发孩子的“恐惧”来让他们照顾父母。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当一种糟糕体验背后有更可怕的体验，人会本能地选择前者。</strong></span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 自我牺牲</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为孩子做很多超出自己能力范围的事情，放弃自己某些利益，委曲求全。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">放弃工作、兴趣，</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">舍不得吃舍不得穿，舍不得享受。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">并且会把这种“牺牲”传递给孩子知道。</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这会激发孩子的“内疚感”，觉得亏欠父母，必须要报答他们、喂养他们。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 过度褒奖</span></strong></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多“别人家的孩子”就是这样养成的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子有点小成就、小进步，就过度表扬、赞美、夸张的表演、不切实际戴高帽。不但给孩子过度物质奖励，也让他觉得这样才“更值得被爱”，才是完美的孩子。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母和他在一起就像沾了光，变得很快乐、很开心。加上外界频频赞美，经常被拿来贬低别人的孩子。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">时间久了，孩子也会被假象迷惑，进入一种“全能自恋”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当孩子被架到这种高度是很危险的，他们容不得犯错、失误，更不能容忍失败，否则就强烈地自我攻击，甚至自甘堕落。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们不得不成为别人的“标杆”，变成满足父母自恋需要的“妈妈”， 也会要求、挑剔父母，就像父母的父母一样。</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">以上不论哪种方式，都在试图把孩子变成“小大人”，都在告诉孩子：“快来满足我、喂养我呀”。</span></strong></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97420" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 35px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span>https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202104/08/f6987e793f279f7c1a9a3dfa3b577d4d.png</span></section><section style="margin-right: 6px;margin-left: 6px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 30px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;background: rgb(64, 143, 228);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);width: 30px;height: 30px;border-radius: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-original-title="" title="" style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;line-height: 30px;font-size: 16px;font-weight: bold;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">4</section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 35px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span>https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202104/08/f6987e793f279f7c1a9a3dfa3b577d4d.png</span></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“小大人”长大之后往往出现两个极端：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个极端是会不遗余力地满足他人、照顾他人的情绪。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">像《芳华》里的刘峰一样，只要能帮助别人照顾别人，牺牲自己无所谓。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们会过度考虑别人的感受，甚至生存都成问题，还去捐款、扶贫、公益，或收养小动物。因为“舍己为人”就是他存在的意义和价值。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">另一个极端是让自己再次“变回孩子”，重新享受母爱。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这个极端充分说明了为什么父母会把孩子变成“父母”的根源：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为在父母小的时候没有机会“做孩子”。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们本该享受的自主、自由、童真、无拘无束被客观因素、被父母中断了。他们看父母脸色、给父母赚钱，等长大就会无意识寻找让自己满足的人。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">若没有，恰好伴侣又指望不上，就很可能从孩子那里补回在父母那里失去的童年。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97420" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 35px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span>https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202104/08/f6987e793f279f7c1a9a3dfa3b577d4d.png</span></section><section style="margin-right: 6px;margin-left: 6px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 30px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;background: rgb(64, 143, 228);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);width: 30px;height: 30px;border-radius: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-original-title="" title="" style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;line-height: 30px;font-size: 16px;font-weight: bold;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">5</section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 35px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span>https://www.gongyi020.com/data/attachment/forum/202104/08/f6987e793f279f7c1a9a3dfa3b577d4d.png</span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，家庭稳定的前提是各个成员必须归位：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈就是妈妈</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">爸爸就是爸爸</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子就是孩子</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">爷爷奶奶就是核心家庭之外的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">打个比方：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母就像充电宝，孩子就像手机。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">若父母总想给孩子充电，一看到80、90格电就慌了，赶紧充上，甚至明明是满格的，还要不停充，这会缩短手机寿命，也会耗竭充电宝，手机也很不方便，到哪都要拖着个笨重的家伙。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而手机还有10格或5格电的时候却找不到充电宝，只能绝望地等待关机。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多时候爸爸妈妈总搞不明白，你的存在是为了给手机充电，而不是让手机给你充电。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">同时，充电宝没电时，就要寻找属于自己的电源，而不是设法把手机变成电源。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">做到这一点并不容易，这需要：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">认清一个事实</span></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">明白一个道理</span></section><section style="margin-right: 0em;margin-left: 0em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">坚守两个原则</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这个事实是：亲子之爱是单向的。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">就像水往低处流是一样的，不可以倒流，为人父母只能付出，不可以有主观上的要求。孩子是否孝顺正如你自己一样，过了某个阶段自然会有，不必过早让他们报答，变成双向需求。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">经典影片《当幸福来敲门》就生动诠释了什么是单向的、无条件的爱：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不管爸爸遭遇多大磨难，</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">和妈妈分手、负债累累、没工作、甚至每天排队领救济粮、夜晚住在厕所……</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这些事都是和6岁儿子一起经历的，但这个爸爸从未在儿子面前表现出悲伤、绝望、无助，也从未让儿子体验到自己的艰辛。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">相反，父亲通过游戏互动、通过乐观积极的态度、通过与有钱人相处时的自尊自爱，让孩子不断感受希望、体验幸福。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">需要明白的道理是：尽最大可能知道自己的“原始需求”。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">就是要知道自己内心最匮乏的是什么，知道的越多就越不被它控制，也就越不会投给孩子。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">道理很简单，却极少有人坚持探索，是因为恐惧，害怕知道匮乏背后的创伤，那会给自己带来羞愧和耻辱。倒不如直接“行动化”投给别人，特别是力量薄弱的孩子，更可怕的是你未必觉察。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">需要遵循的两个原则是：</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.498);max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 0.5em;margin-left: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">第一，在孩子能力范围内的需要，你不必去满足。没必要越界，凡是越界都是你的需要，这就是温尼科特所说的“恰到好处的挫折”和“足够好的妈妈”。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 0.5em;margin-left: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">第二，你的情绪要先被满足，而不是用超出能力的牺牲满足孩子。你是你，孩子是孩子，你的需要除了清晰还要去满足，至于如何满足是你的事，但不该让孩子背负，否则就是以“爱孩子”为理由来“爱自己”。</span></strong></span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最后：</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可以反思一下，你的早年是否被父母过度使用，导致如今你除了特别会照顾他人的感受外，有时莫名地委屈和孤独；</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">再反思一下，现在的你是否在用类似方式依赖孩子，或者过度照料、甚至纵容孩子。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">弗洛伊德的三个主要贡献：潜意识、人格结构、心理性欲发展期，心理性欲发展期最关注的就是俄狄浦斯，俄狄浦斯也成为后期精神分析学者主要研究和拓展的方向之一，对于解释一些现象非常有说服力。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">就像张天布老师所言，实际中国文化的中的沉香救母就算三角关系，陈香打败了他的舅舅，舅舅一定程度代替三角关系父亲的角色。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">广义的三角关系：来访者—咨询师</strong><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">—设置</strong>，如果设置，那么咨询就不会很稳定，推荐也会比较难，所以咨询师的设置本身就是心理咨询重要组成部分。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果拓展三角关系，会发现，的确很多来访者的三角关系有问题，也就是所谓的三元关系，而常常陷入二元关系，说明来访者可能属于边缘人格结构，而三元算是神经症性人格结构，以此也可以判断来访的心理成熟度和发展期如何。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 2em;letter-spacing: 1px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;font-family: PingFangTC-light, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, 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